Emotional
How many of you have received feedback about being emotional at work? Even when the worst thing happens I think there is an expectation to be completely emotion free by women in my group. The men in group can get mad, angry shout no problem, but if I raise my voice or display any kind of emotions I’m looked at as ‘weak’. Crying of course would be a complete No. I have felt this multiple times on different teams I worked. What are your thoughts? How do we end this ?
50% of workforce has likely received this feedback.
It’s generally not okay for men to lose their tempers either. You shouldn’t put up with that, if it’s happening on your team.
Yes but men don't get this feedback as often...and women do make unconcious mistakes that make others perceive them as "weaker". The playing field is narrower for women in this particular case.
As upsetting as it is, you can't "end this". You will always have a narrower "work-appropriate" scope for things like demonstrating emotion. There has been a decline in women graduating with tech degrees despite the increase of women in college. The vast majority of founders for the computer science field are women...and we are still in decline in this field. It's just reality. You can't cry or show strong emotions in the workplace. Sorry.
Mostly because women in leadership won’t fix it for their next generation. It’s already hard enough for them to survive.
I disagree. The problem is societal. It is a bigger problem than the women in leadership can address alone.
How do you know if men receive this feedback less often? I'm pretty sure they get similar feedback. I'm a girl, but I hate when people use their emotions to control a direction of the conversation. It's manipulative and doesn't help to solve a fk
I have a male coworker who does this. Super annoying, and we're a team of all men
No idea what kind of feedback he has received, but he seems to be my manager's least favorite. He never delivers anything on time, complains about team dynamics and constantly kisses ass. Fortunately, the latter annoys my manager and he isn't impressed. Frankly I think this guy has previously gotten ahead by being political at companies where that mattered more than delivery
This dumb app won't let me cite the book I want because it flags it as an ad....woman here too. There are numbers released from HR reports that back this up. It's confirmation bias.
My female colleague and I (also female) were called “intimidating” by our ineffective and underachieving male manager. Before he came on board we had only the highest praise from everyone inside and outside our org. We both ended up leaving.
Not everything is fair for men either, I recently provided feedback to a man about not shouting in the meetings.
Have you read "Nice Girls (still) Don't get the Corner Office"? It's amazing. It was written by an executive coach on the topic of women in the workplace playing field. When I started in my career 6 years ago, I did get some feedback like this. It did not last long because I got a different manager who understood me a lot better. She was a woman. After her, I changed the way I communicated. She was a great coach. Even small things like body language or how you dress can affect the perception of others in the office.
Truer words were never uttered.