I have been looking out jobs recently and today I received this text message ... this creep ( who’s not in my contacts) texts me saying he saw my profile on bumble ( that doesn’t have my phone number on it ) and came across my resume ( that has my number on it ). I have a unique name so not so difficult to figure out it’s the same person. Clearly he has misused professional information ... what can I do ? What should I do ? I’ve been actively looking for a job switch so have applied to multiple firms ... I’m in NYC so it’s not so easy to figure it out ... Here’s how this is connected to “toxic” masculinity 1. Thinking that if he got a piece of information about a woman ( even if it’s from a professional platform ) he can use it to up his dating / getting laid game 2. Not accepting that after right swiping me on a dating app if he hasn’t yet received a match from me it could mean that I’m not interested in him 3. Thinking that all a woman is ( even is she is applying for a job ) nothing but an object of sexual amusement ... not a coworker !!!
What does it all have to do with masculinity?
Check your bumble. Since he says he sent you a request, you should know who he is (intersection between where you sent the resume and dudes you are matching on bumble). Contact the recruiter from that company if you are in touch else 911.
Yeha contact the company's hr
I’ve applied to many firms in last 2 months ...
You could find who he is on bumble and find his company on LinkedIn
This is truly awful. But I also don't understand how people relate this behaviour to masculinity.
This person is being presumptuous, but I don't see the connection to any kind of masculinity. If you don't want this guy's messages, block them.
You should be able to find the identity of the person who owns this cell phone number. Among other things, you can call at night from an unknown number and listen to the voice mail. You can also just google the number - sometimes the owner will pop up. There are also apps you can put on your phone to identify ppl who call / text. I would encourage you to make sure you have a job somewhere before you alert his HR department, as he could retaliate against you. Focus on taking care of yourself first. You can weaponize this later. But, remember, the guy who sent that text could be on this platform. Watch your back
I have a job ( I’m not sure is this creep is in my firm ) and I have a few offers too ... I want him to learn a lesson that he can’t go around misusing professional information for his dating pleasures
He's not learning any lessons by you posting this. If you want him to learn you tell him what he's doing is wrong and why.
This is not toxic masculinity you stupid idiot. This is just a creep - there are female creeps as well. Stop spreading falsehoods and bigotry. You should be ashamed
Please take up reading before you post comments like this !!!
Try to be civil and courteous. The ad hominem “You stupid idiot” adds nothing to the discussion.
I know a ton of ladies that I think would do similar things. How should we call that?
Toxic masculinity definitely exists, but this isn't it.
Nah, it doesn’t.
Apologies u had to face this asshole. Unfortunate part of our society.