I’m from a non-English speaking country, and I’m super uncomfortable being asked “How are you doing?” by my colleagues everyday. Because I just don’t know how to answer it! In my own country, there’s no such question, if people just want to greet, they’ll say “hi” or “good morning” without asking you a question. I saw Americans answer “good” automatically to this question, but sometimes I’m in a frustrating mood or not feeling good at all, it’s very hard to even fake a “good” answer...I just wanna sit alone and code instead of faking I’m in a good mood. Do other non-American people have similar experience? This “How are you doing” culture drive me nuts.
It took me maybe 6 months to get used to the fake politeness. Just answer good unless you actually have something to tell. Don’t overshare your personal issues that no-one wants to hear though.
Yes it is fake politeness. I used to it, but it took me a long time. In my country we don't smile when we say hi to strangers. If you do that in States you would be labeled as asshole, so I have to make a fake smile every time. When you buy something at the grocery store, do you think they care how was your day and they smile because they are glad to see you? Nope. It is a fake politeness.
It’s not fake for me. Smiling to people is a sign of peace from within
You'll get used to it. When in America do as Americans.
Messed up man .. save bigotry to your 🏡
Initially I thought people actually wanted to know how I was doing. What a stupid person I was! Ha.
It wasnt just you ;)
You were around the wrong people, my friend.
Reply with "Not bad"
So true!! When I visited US for first few times, I used to fall for this. Then I observed that the person asking “How are you?” has actually no interest in listening to the answer. So just say “ going good” and move on.
You people got it good if this is something that bothers you. Lighten up and don’t be so triggered.
When we say it, we just mean Hello and to acknowledge your presence. Respond with “Great, you?” Some people use it to actually start a conversation so if they respond with more than a few words it will let you know their intention.
You dont need to answer. Just say Hey!
I just respond "Living the dream " That usually shuts them up or fuxks them up
I always respond by saying “nice, my dream is two girls at the same time, but spending 10 hours a day in fluorescent office is a close second”
This is not a question.
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“How are you doing?” is not a question. That was my answer.