Living away from your spouse- how do you spend your time?

GrubHub / Creativehdydhfjufy
Apr 10 50 Comments

I miss my partner so much and it feels like I have a lot of time at hand (works in another city).
How do you keep yourself busy or distract from this missing feelings ? (Other than existential day to day time pass like Netflix, cooking, sleeping, walking- please tell me what u do / suggest something nice and I ll share something fun back with you )

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    • Autodesk spybot
      What? I mean, nothing wrong with sex but how are you missing the idea of a wristy. You know waving hello to the one eyed weasel. Charming the snake
      Apr 10
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      Choke the chicken, spank the monkey. Rub one out. Sheesh
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      Apr 10
    • Expedia Ytdj51
      Dude, you work at google and you can’t see that is jacking off?
      Apr 10
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    • Expedia Ytdj51
      Lol
      Apr 10
    • Microsoft / Cust. Srv.
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      I'm just trying to figure out how you got to "gay anal sex." 🤔
      Apr 10
    • Expedia Ytdj51
      Lmao good point. Must be on his mind
      Apr 10
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  • Google hTED02
    Finding another one
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    • Oracle / Field Ops5gnlaq
      Nice advice dickhead
      Apr 10
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      LOL
      Apr 10
    • GrubHub / Creativehdydhfjufy
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      No because I have fallen in love 🧡
      Apr 10
    • Expedia Ytdj51
      Barf, talk to us in a few years when your puppy love wears off and you get annoyed by the way she walks in the house
      Apr 10
    • Oracle / Field Ops5gnlaq
      Imagine being in a relationship where you get annoyed by the way someone walks. Feelsrealbadman
      Apr 10
    • Oscar 🐨koala
      OP’s SO is a he!
      Apr 10
    • Google hTED02
      I have been there after a year I was like WTF ?
      Apr 10
  • Autodesk spybot
    First don’t try to run from that feeling or cover it up with mind numbing things. Look at it as an opportunity to really remind yourself of why you chose and continue to choose to spend your life with your partner.

    Once you have a solid grasp on that. Write it down on a nice piece of paper and mail it home. You will be surprised how good putting that letter in the mail will make you feel, and that is nothing compared to how grateful your partner will feel when they eventually receive a random letter from you.

    After that is done realize that it’s a great thing to care about someone so much that things just don’t feel quite right without them around. The uncomfortable feelings you describe are strange because you aren’t used to them. They are not necessarily bad or something you need to distract yourself from.

    Now I’m not saying you should go full emo and start writing bad poetry in a dark room. Just try the things out that I mentioned. It shouldn’t take too long. After that then enjoy the time you have to yourself. You don’t have to feel guilty for trying to figure out who you are separate from your partner. Hell you will have just spent time reminding yourself why you think they are the best thing since sliced bread. So really you are doing them and yourself a favor by figuring out even a little bit of how you can make yourself happy because that directly benefits your partner too.
    Apr 103
    • GrubHub / Creativehdydhfjufy
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      Wow thank you for taking moments to write this. So much helpful, I really didn’t think about writing handwritten letters and ya haha nothing emo (cuz so uncool lol). May be little greeting cards and handmade stuff to send - lovin it!
      Apr 10
    • Microsoft / Cust. Srv.
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      All the other responses on this thread are bullshit compared to this one. Great suggestions! 🥰
      Apr 10
    • Autodesk spybot
      Handmade stuff is great, greeting cards are too, but really taking some time to write a full letter will go a long way.
      The fun playful stuff is a great addition too. Best of luck. Enjoy the adventure
      Apr 10
  • Oracle orcl32
    switch jobs
    Apr 102
    • GrubHub / Creativehdydhfjufy
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      Ya but in the meantime?
      Apr 10
    • MobileIron loom
      Move to Canada
      Apr 10
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    Try Grindr.

    It ain't cheating if it's with the SAME sex. 😉

    If she ever asks you if you had sex with another woman, you can look her straight in the eye under a lie detector test and PASS with flying colors! 👍
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  • Google PCBro
    Hit the gym
    Apr 101
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      Thanks PCBro! 💪🏽
      Apr 10
  • Juniper Pliny Jr.
    Set some quality time for yourself.

    Use scented candles & potpourri from Bed, Bath & Beyond. Some raspberry lotion. One of those back massagers. Some anal beads. Stream some Pornhub.

    Then make sweet love to yourself. 👍

    Do this 6 times a week and you will find yourself in peace and harmony! 😊
    Apr 110
  • Pandora joystick
    When I’m away, I spend most of the
    free time working out (preferably outdoors), eating and leetcoding. I make it a quality alone time. If this is a regular thing, I would start training for a marathon.
    Apr 100
  • Cerner hbmh1$57
    1. Workout. Gotta look good and have 6 packs, when you finally start staying together.

    2. Learn/Create something which can help you in your next career advancement when looking for job. I m not talking about doing Leet Code

    3. Plan your next visit and what things you guys want to do when you meet your spouse

    4. If spouse is studying figure out, how you can help with taking up other chores, like laundry and cooking when you visit

    5. Figure out when are you guys going to start staying together. Sorry to be blunt, but longer you guys stay apart harder it becomes to accommodate others needs in old age, and adjust.
    Apr 100
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    Wish I took that Grubhub job still regret it. Cisco is OMG crazy
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  • Oscar 🐨koala
    Do you guys face time all the tims? That helps. Are you planning to relocate?
    Apr 102
    • GrubHub / Creativehdydhfjufy
      OP
      Thanks so much. Ya May be soon - we do that a lot. But I want to keep myself busy and do something qualitative that way I don’t get those thoughts of missing him.
      Apr 10
    • Oscar 🐨koala
      Cooking!! Especially working for GRUBHUB!
      Apr 10
  • Google take
    You have a lot of time at hand! That's right. 😉
    Apr 101
    • GrubHub / Creativehdydhfjufy
      OP
      Ya I never did have the luxury of so much time but now that I am trying to keep a work boundary and be more productive at work - . I do have sometime at hand and in one way I like it but want to make it more qualitative you see :)
      Apr 10
  • Uber ZombieZoo
    Remotely controlled vibe can be fun for you two.
    Apr 110
  • Amazon Fetch
    My spouse and I have had to live apart a few times through our 20 years together. We learned to have skype/FaceTime dinners each night. It’s not the same as sitting across the table in person, but it helps. Working out helps too, writing letters or cards (was always nice to get something in the mail), these dialogue questions can help....
    https://stl-wwme.org/dailydose.php
    We aren’t religious and don’t have kids, so we skip those questions. Pick one a day and each of you write your answer and then talk about it.
    Apr 100
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    Join some cooking class
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  • Magic Leap Leaper17
    1. Do things that will help your future together.
    2. Plan a vacation together.
    3. Watch a movie, read a book, or plan to learn a new hobby together (something you both can do, but doesn’t have to be the same time)
    4. Read the 5 Love Languages and subscribe to their newsletter on ways to keep the love strong for each other.
    5. Find your own tribe and group of friends in your city. Connect and plan a group event with your common friends for another city.
    6. Surprise your spouse in-person in that city.
    7. Create a gift basket and mail to your spouse.
    8. Find something your spouse needs help with, and try to support or help solve that problem. (ie. they hate doing the dishes - find someone to help with their dishes. it helps them, they would appreciate it, and who knows, they might have more time to spend with you)
    Apr 100
  • Amazon new_ew
    Get a travel rewards credit card, stick to an airline for the loyalty points and book regular flights to see your partner. Collect all those miles! :D
    Sometimes meet midway in a city/place of your choice as a short vacation.
    All of the above will keep you busy, plus will keep the missing to a minimum, plus frequent vacations are a win!
    Apr 100

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