Living in San Jose

Bloomberg Stan Ford
Jul 21 32 Comments

What’s it like for a single male, early 30s, likes women? 🙋🏻‍♂️

Coming from NYC, thinking about renting a 1br apartment likely downtown, unless somebody has a better suggestion.

Serious comments only, please.

TC: 🌲 fiddy, but still waiting on other offers

Edit: What other oprions are there? I need to comute to FANG. Will get a car for sure. SF seems too far and traffic is a nightmare.

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TOP 32 Comments
  • Airbnb wailo
    You can find women to date. Just expect that their BMI will be +10 compared to what you’re dating in NYC, and with a worse attitude towards men.

    You’ll love the weather though.
    Jul 21 3
    • Apple majong
      Single and Salty?
      Jul 21
    • Airbnb wailo
      I’m engaged, but I didn’t find her here. This is the reality.
      Jul 21
    • Google troll123
      It's always a supply and demand thing. The market is efficient.
      Jul 21
  • Amazon lolr
    Where in nyc are you coming from? Which neighborhood?

    You will be disappointed in SJ. Very, very disappointed.

    Do the needful and go to SF. You will still be disappointed coming from NYC, but at least there’s good bridges to jump from.
    Jul 21 2
    • Bloomberg Stan Ford
      OP
      I’ve lived all over - currently UES. Previously UWS, East Village, West Village. SF seems like a great option, but can’t handle the traffic every day.
      Jul 21
    • Amazon lolr
      The marina in SF is the closest thing to W Village. Maybe half as good, at best
      Jul 21
  • Samsung vtPX83
    Zero chicks in Bay area. Piss poor housing options and no girls are the tradeoffs for high TC.
    Jul 21 6
    • Samsung vtPX83
      Get to know San Jose airport...lots of direct flights to NYC.
      Jul 21
    • Bloomberg Stan Ford
      OP
      😆
      Jul 21
    • Facebook BeingCoder
      OP why is marriage out of question for you?
      Jul 21
    • Bloomberg Stan Ford
      OP
      It’s not a simple answer and I can fill football fields with essays on the subject... Don’t get me wrong, I do want a family, but I’ve dated a lot (met over 200 perhaps 300 women in NYC mostly but not exclusively through online dating) and have been in quite a few relationships of various lengths only to find out that 0) I idealize love and relationships more than others and that doesn’t bode well for me long term since relationships are imperfect, which leads me to my next point 1) relationships degrade with time 2) feelings degrade with time (not necessarily mine) 3) people have ulterior motives besides love 4) people are selfish 5) most of my married friends say that they’ve never been as unhappy as they are now that they’re married 6) the divorce laws are brutal for men. It’s a well known fact that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce and the percentage of cheating is even higher and I really don’t like them odds.
      Jul 21
    • Dataminr diwkbfskcj
      I love that your list is 0 indexed 🍆
      Jul 23
  • Micro Focus iotbw
    If you’re decent looking, fit, have hobbies, and can hold a conversation about non-tech related subjects, you should be fine. Yes, even if you’re Chinese or Indian, don’t give me that “yeah it’s only easy for white people” woeful bullshit. People here exaggerate how bad dating in the Bay is. It is if you’re a stereotypical tech bro loser who has nothing to offer besides his TC. I’m not sure where this lack of women perspective is coming from, because when I go out to bars and clubs in SF there’s tons of women there. San Jose is a bit boring but Palo Alto and Mountain View have a decent amount of chill bars. I assume the average Blind user spends most of their day in the office and sits at home on weekends and that’s why they think there’s no women around. The Bay Area probably isn’t as exciting as NYC, but it really isn’t as awful as people make it out to be. So the experience is really what you make of it, but that goes for anything.
    Jul 21 4
    • Bloomberg Stan Ford
      OP
      Awesome.
      Jul 21
    • Airbnb wailo
      All of this is true, but the women you’ll find will be dramatically less attractive than you’d be able to get in NYC. For a guy that wants to be a bachelor indefinitely, it will be a big deal
      Jul 21
    • Google / Eng jf8s3b
      Where are these bars with lots of women? When I went to places on polk or the mission they were packed with dudes
      Jul 21
    • Micro Focus iotbw
      Temple, Audio, Halcyon, 1015 Folsom, any big show at Bill Graham.
      Jul 21
    • Bloomberg Stan Ford
      OP
      Haha, saw that one.
      Jul 21
  • Crew aXFh35
    New Yorker here. Living in San Jose (Santana Row) for six months prompted me to move to SF. Many other NY friends live in Hayes Valley and Pacific Heights. You might also like SOMA (4th and King). It reminds me of home.
    Jul 21 0
  • Lucidworks hMbF15
    Even sf is a couple of notches down from nyc. The nightlife difference as well as the number of single women will be noticeably different. Completely different energy. Recommend you spend a weekend here before making the move.
    Jul 21 0
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    hsoajwksamore
    San Jose is garbage. Most of South Bay sucks. Live in SF if you can.

    I’m moving from SJ soon and couldn’t be more excited.
    Jul 21 0
  • LinkedIn yakem
    Man jose is boring af compared to NYC. Just keeping it real. But if you got game you can get girls anywhere. Besides girls I feel bad for you. San jose sucks.
    Jul 21 0
  • Apple majong
    You would be more at home in SF. Public transport in the Bay Area especially in San Jose is a fucking joke. You will need a car in San Jose . If wherever you are going to work has shuttles from the city and back up, I would choose SF.
    Rents however for a 1br are much lower in SJ as compared to SF.
    You’ll need to chose your battles
    Jul 21 0
  • Google MrBenDover
    Lol don’t. Been there. Done that.
    Jul 21 0
  • Google UODHG
    Really don't be single in man Jose. SF 10x better night life
    Jul 21 0
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    仆街 冚家鏟

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    San Jose is fuck off boring. Go to mountain view
    Jul 21 3
    • Facebook upoppd
      Lol mv is shit. Turning into sf full of techies and vagrants
      Jul 21
    • Bloomberg Stan Ford
      OP
      Thank you, I was considering it. In what way is MV better?
      Jul 21
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      仆街 冚家鏟

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      It's way more lively. Plenty of things happen in Castro street every week.
      Jul 21