Posted about the low status of engineers a while back. There were some serious responses so thought I'd follow up. I spent some more time in bars and clubs to observe, experiment, and learn. Current general idea is that the girls look for more immediate and apparent value. So the common strengths of engs mean nothing because she doesn't benefit in a clear way immediately, direct prostitution excepted. Some examples of (socially acceptable) immediate value that get a lot of female attention: - host/organizer/promoter of the event or of a group: like the frat party doorman, opens doors to events and does the legwork - the camera guy; pro photography is expensive, so flirting with the camera man to get pics throughout the night can easily be worth hundreds of dollars - the musicians/dj's: defacto event promoters, access to drugs and a varied lifestyle, etc - tall guys: rare enough that women become the chasers More average height guys without the above value were more likely be on the sidelines no matter how stylish/peacocked/good looking. Some have mentioned engs who bartend on the weekends. That's a significant undertaking especially when leetcode beckons but so are all the paths mentioned so far. Online seems to be a source of many marriages now but I'm seeing a lot of strict preferences such as for height.
Wait so.. women who hang out at clubs think that the club lifestyle defines social "value"? Color me surprised. You are meeting women the wrong way. Try your social network (real world), activities and hobbies outside of clubs and club-like bars, and online mechanisms that reward not being a douche or socially inept. (I am assuming you are not a douche and have basic social skills - though I fear this may be too optimistic from your reactions here)
OP should try going to MeetUps for activities he’s interested in.
A host/promoter/photog/etc is a douche and inept? You throw out the words douche and inept like you're hopeless. What are you lashing out about? Whatever it is, that's cool but not my thing.
Oh god. No wonder you aren’t getting any.
A surer assumption is that you'll never do better than a fug.
Your findings tells me more about the type of girls you are chasing than anything else! I wouldn’t want to date a girl who fits the profile you are portraying!
Maybe try to actually, I dunno, talk to women with the intention of getting to know them. Rather than trying to read and figure out women. And please don’t write a oracle manifesto.
May try to I dunno read and comprehend before replying.
Also if you think women chase you in packs just because you are tall - you are mistaken :)
This is something you can look into directly yourself, no need to debate it.
This is one of the worst things I’ve read on Blind. And that’s a high bar.
I’m literally considering washing my eyes with vinegar to prevent seeing horseshit like this ever again
At least, OP post made me laugh haha
what the hell is this lol
1 shot of desperation, 1 shot of sadness and 6oz of sour mix. A classic drink named Sexless and crying on the beach.
I would call that drink Virgin
Dude clubs and bars are shitty places to meet women. I remember your last post where when you said you were an SWE and the woman said 'oh, so just like everyone else?' Why would you even want to date a woman that acts in this rude manner? There are some great gals out there that won't do this immature shit. I wouldn't even bother dating these kinds of women you are describing. Honestly OP just move to NYC the bay is such a crapshoot for men based on what I hear from blind.
I've been to NYC, it's not so different to the point of them having different reactions to major professions. The eng job is socially isolated compared to most others and it shows, just like you can detect the salesman in someone.
No but at least people won't have really shitty stereotypes of SWE like people do here. Also, gender ratio is in your favor.
lol