My Manager is such an asshole

Nvidia / Eng
mrcompiler

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mrcompilermore
Dec 20, 2018 26 Comments

I feel so pathetic to have reached this level, I have so much respect for him and I look at him as a mentor but he fuckin trivializes everything that I do, he asks me to finish tasks in half the time. He won’t know the depth of work but asks me to deliver the code in couple of days. I am feeling it hard to explain it to him, never fuckin acknowledges the work I do. When I try to explain things he starts frowning, change in body language. Fine, if he’s trying to train me, but I need a balance, my average working hours over last 6 months is 12hrs including saturdays 😭. when I explain this to him, he says “we expect you to do things faster”(fuck off you moron)
It’s been 3 days that I have done proper work,
I just realized that inducing so much pressure has made me not do work and I just feel like showing 🖕🏻when asked for status. I don’t want to be in this shithole.

I work at Apple.
I can potentially develop a product bottom to top.
Base:125

I want to work at a place where I feel respected, valued for my work and then compensated right.

Things holding me back: edu loan, still on F1 opt, about to get married.

Don’t know what to do. 😔😔😔😔😔😔

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    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      Lol no.
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Apple / Eng Trashing
      Asian definitely...?
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      Chinese American
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Apple / Eng
      iHateFruit

      Apple Eng

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      iHateFruitmore
      Indian managers are douchebags. My ex-manager was Indian and such a piece of shit.
      Dec 21, 2018
  • New suckers
    Apple...looks good from outside, but inside there are many worms.
    Dec 20, 2018 0
  • New suckers
    At least you didnt work 100 hours a week then never get equity under steve jobs....apple is full of slave drivers.
    Dec 20, 2018 0
  • Amazon JeffWonky
    You know... if you a shoe hurts you get a different one. Change teams. He ain’t god. No jerk is worth losing your personal happiness over
    Dec 20, 2018 3
    • Williams Lea Tag / Mktg GayDude
      That is such a great advice. Thank you for this comment 🤝✨♥️🌈
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      True.. thanks a lot
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Amazon JeffWonky
      Best of luck OP :-)
      Dec 23, 2018
  • Apple is like this. Didn’t you read the hundreds of other similar posts on Blind?
    Dec 20, 2018 1
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      No , I haven’t
      Dec 20, 2018
  • Adobe rom
    Is he same with others or you are being targeted ?
    Dec 20, 2018 1
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      Same with others too.. but they have more accomplishments than me so they can talk back but me being a newbie here
      Dec 20, 2018
  • Pure Storage iSSk05
    Go somewhere else.
    Dec 20, 2018 0
  • Apple / Eng Trashing
    I hope you have your 1-1s every week. Be bold and create an agenda of all the points you mentioned above. Tell him you are feeling the burnout due to this unnecessary stress. Tell him you want to contribute your best and how the status quo is not allowing to give your best.
    Post back the results for us to slide/dice.
    Do NOT leave your job just because you have a bad manager.
    Dec 20, 2018 2
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      Thanks for the suggestion, I have spoken to my manager, he didn’t understand, when I start talking what he doesn’t like he starts frowning, Spoke to his manager, he told its gonna be like this and I have to adapt. I will gather some more courage and bring up this problem..
      Dec 21, 2018
    • Williams Lea Tag / Mktg GayDude
      Great advice ✨ Thank you for your comment 🤝🙏🏼✨
      Dec 21, 2018
  • Microsoft / Product TacoBoss
    Why not look for internal transfer to other jobs at Apple? Or find a job outside
    Dec 20, 2018 3
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      I don’t meet the criteria for an internal transfer, minimum a year at apple.
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      A job outside, is something I want to do, I need to tune my brain for interviews again. Will do it if this continues.
      Dec 20, 2018
    • Microsoft / Product TacoBoss
      It will be hard temporarily but long term you will be happier. Start preparing
      Dec 20, 2018
  • New DvVM00
    I work at Apple.
    I can potentially develop a product bottom to top.
    Base:125

    Sorry, but those 3 do not go together.

    Your manager may indeed be an asshole, but you better take a step back and re-evaluate your skillset. This is very very challenging to do so honestly so the best way is to get another job and see how you are appreciated there.
    Dec 21, 2018 1
    • Nvidia / Eng
      mrcompiler

      Nvidia Eng

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      mrcompilermore
      OP
      Y do u say those 3 don’t go together
      Dec 21, 2018
  • New IUOc04
    Your manager is psycho and master manipulator. I would accept the situation, relax and leetcode, then start looking.
    Dec 21, 2018 0