Physical Violence
Is it okay to physically harm your children? (yes, that includes spanking; use a dictionary, it means hitting)
It’s not ok to physically or verbally harm anyone, regardless of age.
Then why did you call the person above us an imbecile?
It’s ok if you are defending yourself or someone else and there is no other route to take.
If you need to hit a child to teach them something then you have already failed as a teacher and as a parent !
Your question says harm, not every physical contact causes harm.
Actually based on 50 years of research, it does when it comes to your interactions with children
Please link said research
Hitting the children is a failure of communication and give them a bad example of dealing with anger. Reprimand them properly but give them respect.
From a legal perspective, below the waist spanking might be legal, but you can never “harm” the kid, never
The law isn’t always what’s right. Slavery used to be legal...among other things. The US is the only country in the UN that still allows parents, and in some states teachers, to physically harm their children
Also there’s 50 years of research proving that any type of physical harm at any duration is extremely harmful for a child’s development
Isn't there a lot of research showing that any form of corporeal punishment is really ineffective and harmful to children?
50 years of cold hard research!
The other way to look at this question is - how many of us were hit? If we were, and we turned out well - then it’s probably ok?
Ah the survivor bias. Suppose a population is given a serum at birth that kills 90% of children - the 10% will grow up, look around, “we turned out ok, then it’s probably ok?”
If you were hit and think you turned out okay, you’re not okay.
NO And you should be ashamed that an adult has to resort to violence to handle a situation.
Seems like a lot of kids today lack discipline and perhaps the no spanking movement has played a role.
In 1979 Sweden was the first to ban spanking and other physical and mental violence masked as discipline. They’ve closed many prisons. There’s also many other countries that followed behind Sweden and their violence rates are extraordinarily lower than the US. Not using physical or emotional violence toward children doesn’t mean there is no discipline
It has nothing to do with the no spanking movement and everything to do with the not holding people accountable to their problems movement. When a kid comes home with a shitty report card and mommy’s reaction is to call the teacher to complain they are being unfair to little Johnny doesn’t deserve the bad grades because boys will be boys and he needs to be captain of the football team or else he’ll lose his chance at a sports scholarship... that’s why kids lack discipline - mom and dad solving all their problems for them.
If I had a daughter, no, but a son yup.
Why the difference based on gender?
@sanchezos - so you’d be teaching your son ( through your practice ) that when he’s in a position of power ( like you are with him ) he can get what he wants by hitting people ( weaker than him )