I want to know how getting pregnant is like in FB or any other big tech company. I am hoping to have a baby this year but I am afraid that I won’t be able to keep performing well and getting promotions after I become pregnant. What’s your experience like when you had a baby at FB or other tech companies?
- Microsoft dichMy last promotion happened during my maternity leave :-) overall, most likely your own priorities will change a little after you become a mother. Even if you don't get promoted that cycle, it's not the end of the world and there will be much more important things in your life :-) I am a mother of 3 and went through 4 promos during my 6 years at Microsoft.
- Facebook ccsksnnxIt definitely set my career back. I was stressed about it at the time, but now looking back - I would have it no other way. I really wanted kids and should have prioritized it over optics at work. Now that I have had two and they are ages 2 and 4, I am deeply focused on getting back in the saddle. I find that other issues like the old boys network and other factors make a bigger difference and those are going to be systematically hard to attack. If I were a single no kids woman who could work 24 x 7, I still wouldn’t be able to conquer those issues. The reality is that my family keeps me motivated to change the world so that they have opportunities. I can’t quit because I need to earn to be able to feed them. It has been deeply motivating and my love from my children is way more important than approval from any dick or racist manager or colleague that I have had at work with.
- Microsoft 4655434bPretty sure getting pregnant is the same all around, well mostly. It usually starts with a man trying to get with the woman...
- Microsoft pooptownI would say having kids set my career back by a couple of years each. It was a variety of factors though.
1. During your pregnancy you may be fine or feel like compete shit. It's hard to predict how this part will go. If you get in a crappy team situation, good luck trying to get out of it. This happened to me where I got reorged to a terrible team while I was pregnant and couldn't leave at that point.
2. Taking 5-6 months off of work, everyone kind of forgets about you.
3. After returning to work, first 2-3 months are a big adjustment
4. After returning to work, definite possibly your team or management will change, resulting in new people you have to prove yourself to, or getting moved to a team or project you're not crazy about.
I'm the end, don't be afraid. It's your life and you should do whatever you want with it. In the long run you would have likely hit a glass ceiling with your career whether you have kids or not, so don't sweat it!