Guy. 26. TC 255k. So, talking to a few girls for marriage. Yes arranged. So parents get to know each other first. Like on the phone. Then I usually text the girl and arrange a video call or meet in person if she's in the US. My first question is - "what are you looking for in your partner?". 95% of the responses I get are childish. I want someone who is well settled, well groomed, should earn at least 30 lac per annum and the likes. What I'm looking for is - my ambitions are such and such. I want a partner with similar goals or supportive of my goals so we support each other and achieve them. Is this too much to ask? I've rejected about 16 girls. My parents say I'm too picky and pressurize me. Am I wrong? Do such girls even exist? I'm not an atm. I'll grow old and look ugly eventually. Why is everyone so superficial? Folks with arranged marriage, please pitch in.
Why arranged marriage? You can support urself .
Why u don’t answer this question @op?
I didn't get the question at all. Your logic is beyond my understanding Databricks.
you want someone who earns at least 3.3 million usd/year?
Read my post again. Not sure what you mean.
that's 30 lac I think
I bet op thinks all the girls on Shaadi look like big pieces of Laddu while he himself looks like a Laddu
@Databricks read my post again. You're just giving non sensical replies.
Okay Laddu boy
You are expecting to find self determining individuals in a platform meant for exactly the opposite demographic. Why are you surprised? If you know what you want, try hunting in locations where you are likely to find your target population.
Like where?
Not Indian here, but you sound like you don't actually want to marry.
"I'll grow old and look ugly eventually." You're already there for one of these, the other one is for your next birthday.
Aren't arranged marriages basically catered to people who want superficial things? That's probably also why all the women you meet give the same answer. They're telling you what they expect you want to hear. Same reason they wear makeup when they meet you.
It's usually for people busy with their careers or say too late in the dating game due to various reasons.
You know dating and career can be mutually exclusive. Don’t be mad cause can’t handle rejection
Marriage is not an interview where you look for answers you wanna hear.
Sometimes hearing fb people reply, makes me wonder if cramming leetcode bad is for mental health. Maybe fb should change it's interview process.
May be you should focus more on your arrange marriage interview skills than poking your nose into fb interview process.
I think the qualities that you are looking for are not that difficult to find. I don’t think you are too picky. You are either matching with wrong people based on some other criteria I don’t know about or you have had a really long string of coincidental bad luck.
Thanks. Finally a response to my question.
Boy oh boy you’re in for a ride.
Share your experience. I've almost given up.
Ur 26 cry me a river