Stressed about moving to San Fransisco

Jul 25 47 Comments

After interviewing for a few months I got a few offers (Linkedin, Uber, Google, Amazon, Twitter). I gave it a lot of thought and I will start with Uber in a few months.

I should be happy but I am kind of stressed instead. Feeling overwhelmed with all the changes (Leaving my girlfriend and friends, moving to the US, etc). I always wanted to work on my ideas and run a start-up and it's one of the reasons I am moving to San Fransisco. I hope to see like-minded people there to share my ideas with them. However, being in my early 30s I keep hesitating about my decision. If you had a similar experience in the past I would be happy to hear your story.

Also, what are your thoughts on starting a business considering the possible upcoming recession?

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  • Square SL2007
    I didn’t come as far as you, but I moved across the country to SF. I’m actually leaving in 2 weeks to move back to the East Coast to be with friends and family. My honest opinion is SF can be incredibly isolating, and hard to meet new people when you’re starting with no base. But, you gotta give yourself as many opportunities to break through as possible. Always say yes to new social opportunities. Do your best to expose yourself to new things. As far as American cities go, even with all its problems, its still definitely up there as far as best places to be go.
    Jul 25 19
    • OP
      Same, also the opportunities! If I had the same offer in Toronto I'd have taken it. My friend is getting paid 60k in Montreal!
      Jul 25
    • Square SL2007
      Isnt the COL lower?
      Jul 25
    • Facebook / Eng hooman
      I am making $450k+ here at FB. Max I can get in Montreal is $120k.. I would move in a heartbeat if I get $250k..but seems impossible.

      CoL is lower at Montreal the difference is still astronomical. after all expenses I can still save $200k per year in Bay Area. Montreal also has highest income tax in Canada.
      Jul 25
    • OP
      What's you YOE in the bay area?
      Jul 25
    • Facebook / Eng hooman
      5 at Bay area, 12 overall
      Jul 25
  • Apple MClayton
    SF is great, move out here.
    Jul 25 2
  • WeWork RPvk36
    Moved to sf from Canada 2 months ago. Sf is a tough city to live and you likely will have to make some sacrifices on your quality of life even on an uber salary. Professionally and financially it has been totally worth it though. Also I’m not sure how an upcoming recession is relevant to your decision?
    Jul 25 3
    • OP
      Are you happy with you decision so far? Worst case scenario after saving for a few years we could go back to Canada. I am moving from Ottawa
      Jul 25
    • OP
      I think many start ups will fail when they hit the recession
      Jul 25
    • WeWork RPvk36
      Yes, do it. I have moved to different countries before. You have to go in with the right attitude that things will suck for a while till you get settled in and make new friends etc.
      Jul 25
  • Uber PoolEng
    Congrats and welcome to Uber :) I’ve been here for a while and I can tell you that Uber is exactly what you make of it. It’s still a young company and it’s got lots of great, smart motivated people. There are shitty people too but that’s anywhere and I’ve seen lots worse at other companies.

    Life in SF can def be hard for a single dude. And SF as a city doesn’t feel home to me even though I’ve lived in the city for 6 years now. But there’s a lot going on and a lot to explore so def keep and open mind and connect! But for the long term the cities outside of SF in the Bay Area are far more beautiful and with kinder people and cultures.
    Jul 25 1
    • OP
      Thanks! Do you recommend living in SF? where do you live yourself?
      Jul 25
  • LinkedIn GKwr83
    Congrats on your offers! Came from Toronto to SF two years ago. Early 30 as well. I'm happy but I think I'm more exploratory than other people. Dating situation for me was pretty good - I personally think that there is less competition here.. as in, although there are more guys, most can't talk to girls.
    A lot of smart people here.
    Am I happier here? Can't say, but I would have dreaded many days thinking about what life in SF would have been like.
    Jul 25 1
    • OP
      This is kind of comforting actually. Thanks for sharing
      Jul 25
  • Wells Fargo BRQj38
    No advice here, but congratulations on the offers OP!
    Jul 25 0
  • Workday rich.dryer
    Uber has had some pretty evil behavior. I would never want to work with people like that.
    Jul 25 2
    • OP
      I've heard about that, but before the new management. Things look better now
      Jul 25
    • Apple / Eng Sarcasmist
      If your plan is to start your own business/startup eventually, dont stay at Uber for long. You’ll be too busy at your day job to learn much about starting a business. Try to join a startup when you get the chance.
      Jul 25
  • Microsoft carrots21
    No real advice here, but I hope it all works out for you OP!
    Jul 25 0
  • Uber LDbs78
    SF/Bay is only for families—if you are a couple with no kids, get some pets. If you are single find some tv shows and prepare for a life alone, best luck. Or, move to NYC and have the time of your life!!
    Jul 25 5
    • OP
      I have heard that from others too. I guess it's a choice between career and relationships
      Jul 25
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      What? Why?
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    • Uber Xidl
      How are you supposed to afford a place big enough to raise a family? I think you mean sf bay is only for DINKs 🤣
      Jul 25
    • Uber LDbs78
      Seattle is so gooood if you have a family!!!
      Jul 26
    • Uber Feig35
      Agreed. If you have a y chromosome, dating is rough out here (and women have told me the odds are good but the goods are odd). NYC or LA seem like the career vs. life sweet-spot
      Jul 27
  • Uber LDbs78
    It shouldn’t be a choice between career in The Bay and relationships! NYC has Google, Facebook, Amazon, Uber, Lyft, Snap, and more!
    Jul 25 1
    • OP
      True, I never considered NYC since I had the startup goals in my mind. Maybe I consider it if I decided not to work on my startup
      Jul 25
  • Nutanix 1adja134
    I had a similar dilemma. I made sure to interview only for uber Palo Alto teams because I didn’t want to move to the city.
    Jul 25 1
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    Who cares?
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