How do you deal with uncomfortable issues with male coworkers in meetings.
I find my ideas and things I propose are looked at with scepticism by even more junior engineers, any architecture and system diagrams are pretty much questioned - a lot of the questions are even pointless, and in general a very weird vibe every time I'm in a meeting with people I'm working with. Some people try to replicate my work. One person went ahead on a design decision without even discussing it with me. Some schedule meetings with each other sometimes early in the morning or after hours.
This was not the case when I was working with older men. But when I work with men younger and junior to me (even new grads with 1yoe) there's just so much discomfort. I am in my 30s and look pretty young - I'm South Asian. Maybe my appearance doesn't show that I am experienced? I don't know. Also I don't know if it's typical of being the only woman in the room, or maybe it's just with us females, I am less confrontational and always tend to take feedback and consensus when proposing anything. I always get mansplained and talked over. Or made to feel that what I said was stupid.
I've had one on ones with my managers and skip level people. They seem pretty happy and I feel a sense of positivity from them. However the men I work with on my team - I don't have the greatest dynamic like I explained above. I guess you know that it's hard to go forward in your career if your immediate coworkers and project team mates are less than ideal in terms of interpersonal dynamic.
I'm getting almost demoralized on how hard its going to be to move up in this industry if I choose on going the tech/ architect route.
MS + 11yoe, 350k, non FAANG but one of those usual big companies.
So go have a glass of wine and relax.