Want to leave IT to make time for family and myself
I’m 36 and I work in IT since I was 21. Same as my spouse. We make good money, have some savings. Almost paid off mortgage.
Lately I’m feeling more and more burned out. I’m tired of late night work, overtime hours, unhealthy eating and being tired all the time. We have 1 kid and I always wanted to have 3 by the time I’m 40. We do not travel a lot, haven’t seen Grand Canyon, Yosemite, Yellowstone, Atlantic City, you name it. I kinda want to take some time off from work/IT, have more kids, spend some time to exercise and lose weight that I’ve being gaining for the last 10 years... I look older than I’m actually and that also bothers me.
I have some hobbies/ideas for small business which is not related to IT. And even if I don’t ever make IT money again, my spouse is still so into the job and makes a lot, and I know we’ll be fine.
One thing that stops me is that if I do that - leave a job to make time for family and myself - it’s a feeling that I worked so hard for all those 15 years and ended nowhere... Like why I even bothered then, developed myself, went to conferences, courses, had sleepless nights thinking about job... just to end as probably small business owner and/or stay-at-home person.
Is it too crazy to do? Has anyone/ anyone’s spouse done that? And if I realize that I made a mistake - is it even possible to return to IT after 4-5 years gap when you are 40?