What advice do you give a brilliant engineer struggling with depression and anger issues?
Have a close friend from grad school who is a brilliant engineer and worked at Amazon and did great for 3 years . Then he fell out with his manager and got PIPed out . Since then he had been depressed and although he found another job immediately he got fired in 5 months again because of anger issues and shouting back at his lead . He was brilliant in grad school and was like a teacher to me and several others . Helped us prepare for job interviews . What advice do I give him and help him. He seems to have lost all his confidence after two firings .
Go to therapy. Get some help. Talk to someone.
Meditation. Seriously. I was there and it helped me to recover. Headspace is an easy app to begin with.
He has savings but is on H1 visa . So unfortunately cannot take a break.
Go travel a bit, he will encounter a lot of nice strangers and will help him change perspective on how he see the world.
Therapy + gym/exercise
Exercise, meditation, ketamine
Getting fired twice should be a wake up call. Therapy with some anger management is what he should seek if he wants to change
*Definitely* see a psychiatrist. Therapy can be helpful, but the anger sounds like it could indicate a chemical imbalance. Such imbalances are often paired with brilliance, and nothing to be ashamed of. Conventional therapists don’t have the training to diagnose the subtle symptoms of those imbalances. Once something like this gets going, it can “kindle” and actually get worse. He should see a doctor ASAP.
Share the book “Can’t Hurt Me” by David Goggins. We all have pain to work through, David shows us how to embrace it and build on it.
Does he have a gf?
He had a gf but after getting fired from Amazon they broke up. I think he was having a lot of resentment and anger issues that carried on to his relationship.