I was a really happy guy and had a lot of friends through school and college but I graduated with a Bachelor's in CS last year and moved to Seattle for work and the only think I can think about is how to get ahead in my career.
When I go on dates, I feel like I'm wasting my time and should be on leetcode instead.
If you've lived in Seattle, you probably know about the freeze. I went through that, made some friends but I just don't have enough fun with them to actually make an effort to grow or increase the friendship.
Coworkers are all right and fun but they have completely opposing interests out of work and I can't seem to find a middle ground.
I try to go for dance lessons (I've been dancing since middle school), go to meetups etc. but I just feel like I should be working harder instead of wasting my time.
I don't come from a family of great means and this is the most comfortable financial position I have ever been in but I have probably never felt this alone or unhappy in my whole life.
My college friends are kind of what keep me going. Just chatting with them and occasionally calling them is probably the only thing that gives me joy now.
Been reading books like Man's Search for Meaning etc. to try to understand more about a bigger purpose but that doesn't really help.
My college and high school friends literally tell me that I've changed and I feel it too. I'm not sure what to do.
2. Is moving closer to fam and friends an option?
3. You are changing and will definitely continue to change and that’s what growing up means...
4. Don’t force it. Do what feels natural and don’t hold yourself to old expectations or constructs