Whats your story

Microsoft CartelLord
Apr 21, 2018 66 Comments

I am sure each of us, has a story. A story, that is inspiring. A story of rejection, failure, hardwork, misery and above all succeeding against the odds. The story of believing. The story of perseverance.

We all grumble and acknowledge how unfair life is, how unfair the company's system is, that we work for. But looking back, we will always amaze ourself how much is there to look forward to.

My story: I grew up in a remote villege. My father was alcoholic and mother was the bread earner. We lived in a mud house. Family income $20 a month ( not in the US), US equivalent would be $1200 a month family income today. We barely had enough to eat three meals. My mother worked upto 18 hours a day, including household chores. Me and my siblings wore torn clothes and first shoe I ever wore was when I was 17. Didn't have school bag. A single note book made from recycled paper. Slept on the floor. Didn't have running water, stood in a line everyday to fetch water from the common supply tank. Suffered scores of dieseases like malaria, typhoid etc. Coke was a luxury we couldn't afford. Ate roti with jaggery for breakfast, most mornings.
Went to a school with no doors or windows, forget electricity and sports facilities. Many of the people I went to school with grewup to become road side vendors, some became mechanics and a couple started tiny shops. Travelled on the floor of buses and trains. Visited a city first at age 20. People I went to college with were from respectable middle class and upper middle class families. They wore jeans, graphic tees and sports shoes. I wore cheap cotton pants (more like pajamas) and recycled shirt. With a wornout sandal.

But, thanks to my mother, we always believed in hardwork. Held our heads high and fought hard in the battle of life. To me life is like a coffee, its dark, it smells bad and must suffer heat. But keep working on it, pushing through that phase of brewing and you would be amazed how rewarding it could be.

Today, I am working for one of the top companies and have access to luxury vacations. I have potential to become as successful as I am willing to work hard for. I travel business class on airplanes. I have access to worldclass health care and I am very thankful for everything. When I am dejected, I look back and I always get something to look forward to. This is my story. My tiny inspiration.

Whats your story?

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    • Google googh1b
      I feel ashamed of you and you work at Google.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New yhspz
      Google's a big company. But not as big as his penis.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Amazon / Eng iAmDead💀
    My paternal grandparents wanted grandsons. They hated my mother and us. They told my mother to leave the house when my elder sister was born. After 2 years of living separately, my dad moved to another city ( the culture gap between the two cities is tremendous) to be with my mother and sister - they had language troubles (since the language used in the other city was a new language for them) and also had compatibility issues - When I was young they’d fight alot and discuss divorce almost all the time ; they were amazing parents individually but not otherwise. My paternal grandparents hated us like hell. Meanwhile I was very fat for most of my life - was fat shamed for most of my life (by my sister as well), I was very studious and serious when I was a kid ( People used to make fun of me and they used to look at me as if I’m an alien). Time went by , I had fewer friends and life was pretty much miserable. My parents got over all their differences and I got really close to them. They motivated me to study further and encouraged me in every possible way. They had been saving money for 15-20 years (ever since I was in first grade) to fund my studies abroad. I came to US for my masters, made alot of friends (people who’ll mean alot to me no matter where they are), moved to a new city after graduation where I barely know anyone. I work for a good company and spend most of my weekends alone cultivating new hobbies and talking to family/friends. I am in a really happy space now - for many years of my life I had this feeling of being “worthless”, now I have a sense of satisfaction. 🙂
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Google googh1b
      Great story. Thanks for sharing
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Very inspiring. Thanks for sharing.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • eBay stephens
    (Non h1b story. )

    I'm white. I'm female, my dad's pretty well off. When my parents divorced when I was around 5 they both started drinking. My mother got custody of us and eventually my brother chose to live with my dad. My mom wasn't fit to raise children and had plenty of addictions. She was pretty uneducated. I didn't get along with my dad. My brother was physically abusive.

    I figured living with my mom, I hated it but I had freedom. She was neglectful, my father is a perfectionist. My mom eventually blew all the money we had and didn't pay the bills. We moved out of a nice house into a shitty one. Then we didn't have any food. Then the electricity bill was passed due. So we had no power.

    Thankfully I live in California so it didn't snow, but It still got plenty cold. I tried to finish highschool couch surfing with friends, finding wifi, and food where I could.

    Then my father stepped into my life when I was 18. He kicked my brother out for drugs so he lived with Mom and I. My dad said he saw that I was a straight A student and if I signed a contract with him he would help me pay for college.

    I leapt at the chance. I studied art because I was rebellious and loved it. I lived with my dad for the worst most depressive year of my life in his fancy ass house with his trophy wife.

    I worked hard graduated with BFA couldn't find a job, so taught myself HTML and CSS. I took a UI design boot camp and got a job contracting for Google. I recently got a grow with Google scholarship for front end Engineering and I married the man of my dreams.

    My best friends tell me it's a wonder I'm still alive and not on drugs living off the system with a million kids.

    My brother is a 30 year old high school drop out that still lives with our mom, that could have been me but it's not. I consider myself very lucky. To me...

    I have a Cinderella story.
    Apr 21, 2018 5
    • Cisco lEcG86
      That was a great story! Thanks for sharing!
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New / Eng RhpJ71
      That's a lot of emotional trauma growing up. You've done a great job taking charge of your life and beating the odds.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      This is so inspiring how you faired against all odds and there are so many of us who can derive inspiration from it. So sorry, you had to grew up like that, I can only imagine the pain. So glad you have such a great life now. Way to go. :)
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Google googh1b
      Very inspiring. Thank you for sharing
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Microsoft / Eng corpcult
      Sorry for your struggle. See mine below. Sometimes I feel like it's hard for anyone to relate, so I appreciate when someone digs themselves out of the shitter like I did.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Tesla noob2018
    Luckily I am from the US but my parents are not. While attending college, I worked full time and lived in my car. I graduated without owing anything, but I did not get a STEM degree. I wasn’t even aware about software engineering or programming.

    I ended up working for a biotech company after college. The pay wasn’t good at all but I kept working my way up and eventually was making somewhat ok money but my resume was pretty good now.

    While working at the biotech company, I did a part time web development boot camp. I learned advanced css html and basic JS. I lived 1 hour from my job so I would drive 1 hour to work which was close to Sacramento, then after work rush to a BART station to make it to the boot camp in SF. Because I lived far from work and from the boot camp, sometimes I’d have to sleep in my car due to exhaustion and living so far. At this time I also became a father, and unfortunately the lady didn’t support me. I did all this to better my sons future.

    After finishing the boot camp, I got a call from my current employer. It wasn’t for a programming or web development job but I took it anyway because the pay was better and I wanted to work in a new environment.

    I’m thinking about quitting and doing the app academy boot camp full times. You don’t pay until you get a job. I’m also studying online and reading CS books.

    I’m currently looking for a junior developer job and I’m willing to take the huge pay cut that will come from it. Also open to a product manager associate product manager job. All I do is work, study, and read so I can one day get my foot in the door. I’m determined.

    I know I don’t have the traditional schooling of a SWE but the determination I have will not fail me or my son. I’ll reach my goal, hopefully sooner than later.
    Apr 21, 2018 3
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Sure you will. Great tale of believing and working towards your dream. Thanks for sharing.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Amazon neoFML
      Send me a pm let's connect and get you a job
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Microsoft / Eng corpcult
      Ambition is what counts. Identify what you want and mold yourself to being it. It takes time but strength is necessary to mold yourself into what you want to be.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Google googh1b
    Grew up in a small City in India where having food twice a day was a luxury. Could not buy new clothes in festivals. My father worked extremely hard to educate me and my two siblings. My mother and father kept saying one thing , we could only give you education. You have to figure out your way from here.
    Came to US with few hundred dollars in my pocket and worked hard for last 15 years.
    There was a time when I did not have money to go to interview after my MS because I thought grocery is more important than onsite interview (I should have taken that interview btw)
    I have a house in Bay, have a beautiful wife and child. I am supporting parents throughout and they are living a very good life now.

    There is a lot to add to this story. In short , I came from a family background where crossing of city boundaries for a job opportunity in self was a huge deal. I managed to become engineer and staying here in US
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Cisco lEcG86
      Great story! Thanks for sharing.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Inspiring. Thank you. :)
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Google googh1b
    Great story... I will read this every time I feel life is not not fair to me
    Apr 21, 2018 1
  • Salesforce / Eng Boredd
    Awesome stories by everyone, it’s hard to believe how you all have reached so far in your life. It’s very motivating.
    I also hail from not very good background and since I have been working most of my money is going in supporting my family and that frustrates me a lot sometimes and I feel so bad on my background but reading all the stories I know I am not alone.
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Microsoft / Eng corpcult
      Right there with you. I've always been there for my family and rather often it feels burdensome, but I can't not do it. I suppose it's lucky that we all have good careers that enable us to be there for those we care about.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Salesforce / Eng Boredd
      @Corpcult Good to see there are lot of people like us, otherwise being so young I always have a thought seeing other kids that why didn’t I have that type of background. I have a lot of other problems growing up but I think atleast I am lucky to have this job to provide for my parents and sibling and I think that is satisfying more than anything and also the fact that I am self made.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • New / Eng RhpJ71
    Very inspiring. I don't consider myself successful yet. Hopefully I can be as proud as you someday.

    In my view, success is relative. If you start with a lot of hardship and with limited access to high level mentors the odds of great success is very low. I didn't start as "low" as you do (low == limited resources) but it wasn't that much either (middle class in India). Kudos to you for overcoming the great odds. A particular note: your English is impressive for someone who didn't have a shoe till the age of 17.
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Thank you. I wasn't able to instroduce myself in English until I was in 2nd year of my college. I studied in a local language school. As you said success is relative. And I believe we all here are successful, is this the end? No. We have been more and we will be more.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New / Eng RhpJ71
      Yes, that is a good perspective that we can learn from you.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Microsoft / Product Nope no no
    I’m an Eastern European girl who was raised by her grandparents. Not in poverty, mind you, but extremely frugal. We only had the bare necessities. Never eat out, no new clothes unless I outgrew mine, no vacations, no waste of any resources.
    I am now a homeowner, a Microsoft employee and our combined family income places us in the top 3%. I still can’t believe how lucky I am, but it has been SO hard.
    Wish my grandparents were alive so they could see me today. Wish I could pay them pack.
    May 17, 2018 1
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Great story and feels so good how grateful you are to your grandparents.
      May 17, 2018
  • Microsoft / Sales
    Happynoob

    Microsoft Sales

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    Happynoobmore
    Your story is why I love being where I am, being among people who actually understand that hard work is to be appreciated and not frowned upon makes me want to work even harder. We all have reasons to complain but let's not forget that we are members of an elite of people in this world... Most of the people around us aren't as lucky.
    Apr 21, 2018 0
  • Microsoft / Eng corpcult
    I grew up lower middle class though in a relatively nice US suburb where income inequality was stark. Wealthy and poor kind of mixed together so I always had rich kids and poor kids picking on me for one reason or another. I had a bad stuttering problem though I was lucky my schools had speech therapy that I underwent for many years until I learned how to slow down and control my speech. This was a major part of bullying when I was a kid. I never understood why people hated me so much for it, but if it wasn't that then it was about the fact that I also wore the same clothes all the time and never had nice shoes.

    My father was an alcoholic and had a lot of psychological problems. He attempted suicide a few times and was institutionalized for manic depression and bipolar disorder. He became injured several times and became addicted to opioids in the mid 90's after being disabled from falling down stairs at a concert. He was out of work and his demons took control of his life. I was close to him because he was like my next friend, but my mom kicked him out and casually tried to remove my sister and I from his life over the years.

    Sadly an old friend came into my parents life and just started hanging around our house all day every day. My mom ultimately decided she liked him better, which was one of the catalysts of kicking my dad out, in addition to his addictive tendencies, depression, and general recklessness. I spent a few summers with him while he lived with his parent and various other places not too far away. Over time he moved around for various reasons and eventually I was sick of his life's always got it out for me mentality, so we stopped talking.

    Meanwhile my mom got married to the other jerk whom, to this day after 20 years of marriage has never had a job. Meanwhile my mom worked two jobs (full time salary during the day and a grocery store at night). He has only stressed her out with his petty selfishness and proven track record of truly not giving a shit about her struggles in life. She's denied it for years, asking me to chip in on rent while I was in college and working at the same grocery store her night job was at. He's done nothing but lie to his parents and hers about never working. Saying he's a "web designer". It is perhaps by some perversion of the universe that I was exposed to computers by him, though i hated him I was really into computers and he was an avenue for me to exercise that interest. Anything computer related was given to him by his older brother, an awesome guy who was working at HP for many of the good years and even built his own TiVo like system with commodity hardware running Linux media servers. The man was amazing and I never could figure out how his brother was such garbage.

    To this day his laziness, know it all attitude, and general worthless life have drained my family's happiness. My mother is in the hospital being treated for kidney disease and he left when other family members came so that he could sneak out to be with people that will be drinking. He's also a lazy good for nothing drunk and his lack of responsibility over 20+ years has also lead to mental deformation. He was once told he had the brain of a 70 year old man at 47 years old.

    I live in Seattle while my mother is in South Florida receiving dialysis. I am caught up in the being the bread winner, as I know I will be paying for things going forward that she can't afford, while at the same time being sickened. My sister has had a number of health problems due to diabetes and I'm doing my best to help her lose weight even though I'm far away. Every day is hard and I consistently feel like I got the better end of the stick and they got the shaft. Choices are choices, but I can't let them suffer alone.

    Everyone has a story. Mine is also a Cinderella story. While working at the same grocery store, I made a friend of a frequent customer that used to talk tech with me, he was Team Emacs, I was Team Eclipse. He saw an android app I built in the early days in the first class on mobile development my university offered. He offered me an interview for internship right there in the store. Somehow I got it after interviewing and it literally kick started my software career.

    That very day, when I called excited to tell my mom, she sternly asked why I didn't wish her husband happy birthday. Now I'm cozy in Seattle, good job and finishing grad school while she's still in a hospital bed. It's never been more polarizing and difficult for me.

    Thanks for asking this question. I've been needing to vent.
    Apr 21, 2018 3
    • Microsoft MbUtah
      Good luck with everything in your life!
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New / Eng RhpJ71
      Tough childhood. I'm sure your children will benefit from your experiences.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Tough times. Thank you for sharing. Stories like this makes us believe in serendipity. The way your software career started. Of course kudos to you for not giving up on yourself and believing. Good times ahead and good luck.
      Apr 22, 2018
  • Visa YpSG20
    When I was 12, my older brother was diagnosed with bipolar. At the time, there was still a lot of stigma around it. He would sometimes get violent and blame me for his condition, because he was the good one who studied hard and earned accolades and I was the screw up who didn’t but was still lovable. I believed him. My parents tried to help, but they had their hands full so I ended up on my own, convinced that I had ruined his life. I didn’t speak to any of them for the next 10 years. It’s stupid but I thought if I could just go one day without screwing up, he’d magically be fine.
    Because of this I tried really hard at everything I could think of and did more things than I ever would’ve in the traditional system. I have achieved some things and I am proud of them. But sometimes I wish he would get better so I could go back to being the lovable nobody again.
    I’m sorry, this isn’t as heartwarming as I wanted it to be. My fathers story is though. Born dirt poor, worked hard all his life, supported his siblings and parents and himself and his children, always encouraged us to work hard and try our best and gave up everything for our education. Smiled through even the worst of it. Be like him.
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      This is very inspiring. Thank you so much for sharing yours as well you father's story.
      Hardship is not always about lack of resources. I can only imagine the psychological pain you dealt with. And you pushed yourself hard to overcome that. I had a friend who was from a rich family. He had addictions. He had to work very hard to get over that and do something meaningful. He is doing well now. Has a lovely family. I find his story inspiring as well. Its all about finding light in the tunnel. Thanks.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • Amazon neoFML
      Life is life, we all have scars but we are all full of love also
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Amazon
    Ron lls

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    Ron llsmore
    Very inspiring..I liked your post and I'm very happy for you and your dear ones..I hope you'll help the less privileged ones who are in the same boat as you were few years back..
    Apr 21, 2018 1
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Yes, for sure. :)
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Tesla tqem
    Sometimes reading all these stories and learning about what people have been through to get to what they are makes you realize how lucky you have been in life.
    Apr 21, 2018 0
  • Hortonworks ruJB85
    I didn’t have an iPad, iPhone, PlayStation, game boy, or android tablet growing up. I’m happy I can afford them now.
    Apr 21, 2018 0
  • Pure Storage orangeg769
    Great story. Thank you for sharing and keeping it real.
    Apr 21, 2018 0
  • Microsoft / Eng blksd
    watched Game of Thrones and wanted to be an excellent programmer like Arthur Dayne in swordsmanship. Still trying, moving forward little by little every day.
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Amazon 123raj
      Remember what we say to the god of death?
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New yhspz
      I say something similar to the god of leetcode most evenings..
      Apr 21, 2018
  • New yhspz
    Grew up in Australia. Dad was sole provider as a tradesman. 3 storey house, 2 cars, no crime, healthcare free, school free, university top quality and heavily subsidised, paid off loan in 2 years. Life is good :)
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Awesome man. Good stuff. I look forward to a world where everykid grow up like that.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New yhspz
      Me too. For now it's relegated to the lucky few, being pretty much every developed nation apart from America.
      Apr 21, 2018
  • New yhspz
    Post should be titled "shit you had to deal with in India before u got h1b".
    Apr 21, 2018 2
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      I don't think you got the point. Its not limited to lack of resources. It could be over coming an addiction. Dealing with bad parenting or in a foster home. It could be a story about dealing with a bully at school or work. Overcoming discremenation. Becoming somebody from nobody. It could be anything.
      Apr 21, 2018
    • New yhspz
      *overcoming dysentry
      Apr 21, 2018
  • Amazon Heapster
    OP, do I have permission to share this with other people who can be inspired by your story?
    Apr 22, 2018 1
    • Microsoft CartelLord
      OP
      Definitely. Feel free to share.
      Apr 22, 2018