💆♂️💆♀️How do you define a “good” massage?
I got a massage today, and came back with a bruise. I can’t tell if the ones I’ve been getting are any good. Examples: 1) I get rubbed on the butt (specific pressure points) and the pain feels like someone punched me when I’m being touched 2) Anytime my legs (quads, hamstrings), get rubbed, the pain comes from masseuse squeezing hard Most of these massages are performed by Thai ladies or East Asian ladies, and are mostly Hot Stone or Swedish, nothing crazy like deep tissue. The pain is not typically burning/tingling, it’s feels like being smashed on a pressure point. If I were to ask for less pressure, it would just be a person gently rubbing on me. I pay good money to get work done on my bod, darnit! Is this normal to feel this level of pain? Also: any referrals to good massage therapists around SF/Bay Area? Strong hands but also relaxing?
Usually they should start with a warm up. Later on massuse can add more pressure, but it should never lead to bruises. For me a good massage feels similar to a good work out followed by sauna: body is tired and very relaxed.
No bruises at all. It might be some reaction on pimples or acne. That’s about it.
It should feel nice, bordering on pain some times. But it should feel good.
A good massage is where you end up happy. If you know what I mean ;)
A good massage has a happy ending
Don’t go to Asian parlor and you will find a good massage fast.
Don’t go to Asian Massage Parlors, they really just try to get you horny so they can up charge you...unless that’s your goal. I for one need deep tissue with a woman with strong hands, but is sounds like you more like the Swedish massage technique, and definitely stay away from pressure point massages. Any decent Massuese should be able to adjust the pressure for you.
I also used to think you had to get your money's worth in terms of pressure. I snapped out of it when I realized that I'd never order a steak well done to maximize cooking time per dollar.
An apt analogy!
Re: happy ending massages - I only do professional massages, don’t want randos touching my privates 🤪. I reserve that privilege for my partner.
You should never ever have a bruise from a Swedish massage. Those are soft handed and primarily for relaxation. I’ve had deep tissue that leave my muscles sore similar to post work out soreness but bruises? I wouldn’t go back