Keeping in touch with my friends(if we call them that) nowadays seems like a struggle for me. I am pissed at my circle for having made me initiate a lot of conversations in the last few years. Gave up on this after realizing that this is a recurring scenario. I am not like a bad person or anything and I know some of these folks for more than a decade. Now I am lonely af when it comes to social life. Lucky that I have a large family who constantly stays in touch. Feel free to suggest if any of you had faced and overcame this kinda situation(s) 26 TC: 260 K
Sorry you’re feeling down, but the problem is the people you were around. People grow and change, and so friendships and relationships are constantly in flux. Where you are now is not where you were with those people 10 long years ago. What you need now are people who want to be as invested in their friendships as you do. You need to find more people like you.
Certainly! Will try my best. Thanks!
Friendship is a two way street. Are these people that live in the same area or different area? I’ve had this happen a lot with people who move away. The important ones will make time for each other, the others will fade away.
Different time zones to me within the country
Definitely part of it imo. I’ve had guys I hung out with like 4-5 days a week when we were in the same place and have probably seen a single digit number of times since then. Sometimes it’s just like that. Even for people you definitely want to stay in touch with, it takes more effort when you’re not in the same place. I’m sorry you don’t feel like your friends are putting in the same effort, and sometimes you probably should just let it go, but also know it’s not unusual to feel like it’s harder and requires more effort. Time zones only make it even harder since it’s hard to schedule even remote things like games.
Friendships work when all parties get some benefit from the others. If they are not staying in touch, they no longer see a benefit from your friendship. Nothing wrong with that. We all change as we grow and prioritize new things. Find people who prioritize what you bring to the table and offer things you find beneficial.
My wife is the best friend I have. I have stopped depending upon my friend circle. Keep touch with family.
Exactly what I did also. I figured it's better to have one person in my life that really loves and cares about me than a million "friends" who don't. Quality over quantity.
This ^ . I tried my best to be in touch with my long lost friends but no initiative from other end. My best friend now is my wife.
If you're constantly initiating, seems like the friendship is one sided. It's sad but sometimes people naturally grow apart when school/childhood activities are no longer binding people together.
this is so relatable lol, I’m always the one initiating conversations. Tried the same and they don’t reciprocate. I think I’m done with my circle honestly. Some of talked behind my back and I think I’m just done with the lack of their interest. Maybe I need help tho lmao 24 TC: 160K
Ppl get married and ditch their friends
Initiate conversations with those who will help you out even at 3am without thinking twice, and those whom you would not hesitate to help at 3am. Rest are good for bulk forwarding WhatsApp gifs and occasional messages
Whos not sleeping with their phone in night mode lol?
Curious if these friends are married and/or have kids? It might make them super busy with life stuff and unable to reach out first?
A blend ranging from single to married with kids. Silence from all/most of them
Sorry to hear that. But I would still try to have benefit of doubts, this pandemic is not easy, people got sick, people passed away, people are burned out at work, etc. Maybe focus on yourself for now and try to make new friends and/or new hubbies?