I’m very fortunate to have a job while so many are losing their jobs. I’m blessed to be healthy. But all I see online from friends/colleagues is doom and gloom. Everyone is depressed and having mental breakdowns. Am I being an asshole for not understanding why so many people seem to be mentally fragile? I get that our current situation sucks, but instead of feeling sorry and talking about not being able to eat or sleep, why not focus on doing something positive? Go for a walk. Build something. Read a book. Why is this so difficult for people? I’m plugging away at work. I go for a run every day. I sit outside and get fresh air. I meditate. Are we just a society of fragility?
Imho, I agree with you completely. Yeah, it's boring as f and I lost a lot of money, but shit.. I am still alive and still got a job. Let's toughen up and keep grinding.
Not everyone will understand why people have mental breakdowns but the best thing to do is to support and try to see their point of view. What if you lost your job and were living paycheck to paycheck? What if your SO suddenly got COVID? What if you not only got COVID but didn't have health insurance? What if you got into a serious accident? What if your manager harassed you and they were best friends with the founder and HR? I don't break down much myself but I have a lot of friends who do and I do my best to support them. I myself got laid off recently and the support has been nice.
What if all your friends are really nice but that's only when you meet or talk? All the other time it's just "out of sight & out of mind".
For yourself: you can't rely on others to provide what you need, so take care of yourself. Reach out if you need. Take time to destress. Recognize your limits and adjust accordingly. For others: if you know that others reaching out makes you feel better, then do the same for others and reach out to them once in a while. Be that person you wish you had.