Rsm Saratoga is 15 minute drive against traffic. Issue is while getting back in traffic optimize for late evening and you are fine. There are other options like eye level and others that are nearby. Music classes are nearby.
There is Mathnasium, AJ Tutoring, Kumon and others in Almaden. RSM in SJ or Saratoga is 15-20 mins away. For music there is School of Rock as well as Almaden School of Music - both very popular. For sports, there are amazing choices of teams and clubs due to the outdoorsy lifestyle and facilities in Almaden.
Buy an EV and shuttle them. Or hire a nanny. What you save in house price, should allow you to do that.