Am I depressed?

No

I'm guessing that very few of the randos who read this post are qualified to answer that question. I know that I certainly am not. But I do know that there are professionals who can help you navigate these things, who can give you the time and structure you need to address them within yourself, whether or not it fits the label for clinical depression. I would advise finding a therapist, and committing to at least weekly visits for a few months. I have done so in the past, and it has been hugely instrumental in getting over hurdles that were keeping me from living my best life.

That's a pattern I am seeing especially in Bay Area people. Try another city or state may be?

These are not signs of depression. This is life. I don't know what's up with the kids these days who want to push away all negative feelings under this large bucket called depression. Depression is serious shit. Trust me. Negative emotions, on the other hand, are a part of life, just like positive ones. Life in the US can be lonely sometimes, especially because we are away from our closest family members. Unfortunately, that's the price we pay for all the 'great' careers. Coming back to your pointers: 1. Not feeling like going to work - switch teams, do something on the side, move jobs, or take up an online course to learn something new. 2. Personal life - figure out ways to be with her. L1 transfer? School? Move back to your country (I know people who have moved back to India for their SO. I also know people who pursued a long distance relationship for a few years till they could figure out ways to be together). It's possible. 3. Feeling meaningless - As ironic and cliched it may sound, go out and do something. Learn a new hobby, make a new friend, workout, take a break and visit an old friend, talk to people, volunteer. We all are social animals. Work on building a stronger connection with parents - at the end, no matter how broken you feel in life, you can always go home. So they are important people. 4. Losing hair - please tell me if you figure out a way to reverse this 😂 You can pm me if you want to talk.

Sounds like you have some tough decisions to make and they are weighing you down. Good luck.

I don't think anyone else is qualified to tell you if you are depressed except for a trained professional. However, the symptoms you describe do not strike me as depression, but just that the situation you are in right now is sub-optimal. This could lead to depression, so it's important for you to seek professional help if needed. I'm sorry you feel that way and also sorry that your situation isn't everything you expected, but life is ups and downs. If you're in the bay area, it's really easy to feel like you (or your current situation) is not good enough since you are surrounded by a mono-culture of career-driven, high-ego and relentlessly ambitious people who seem to continue to burn on while you've long ran out of gas. This culture isn't for everyone, and if it isn't for you, I don't think you should consider yourself any the lesser. In a different environment, you'd probably be very happy with where you are.

There are multiple varieties of depression - lookup acute depression vs. chronic depression. I’m Bipolar and have tumbled through varying degrees of depression for basically my entire life. It’s some scary shit when you have suicidal ideas every day - but that isn’t an absolute requirement for depression. In fact, my least favorite “flavor” of depression is when you feel like nothing at all. You could have no interests in hobbies, friends, family, life, food, school, work, the outdoors, etc. You almost have the sensation that you are just floating through life as nearly an outsider to your own experiences- nothing incites an internal reaction. You know yourself. You know when things are different. You know the degree of internal turmoil that is invisible to the outside world. You are the only one who can seek help. If your tooth hurts, you go to the dentist. If your brain hurts and your emotions hurt, you go to a therapist/psychiatrist/psychologist. I listened to others who told me “nothing was wrong” “you’re fine” and that pretty much allowed me to ignore the warning signs up until suicidal ideation became common for me. You may never experience suicidal ideation. However, if you continue to ignore mild symptoms of depression, you can almost guarantee that will become your new normal and will persist potentially without end. 1) Get some GOOD sleep (9 hours). Every day for more than 2 weeks 2) Get some high intensity exercise. 3) Eat leafy greens, substantial proteins, and saturated fats. 4) Make a therapist appointment. Have them comment one way or another about if your concerns are unwarranted.

Yes i m depressed too... doc gave me citaloparam

Not finding pleasure in doing things that used to give you pleasure is a textbook symptom of depression. Please go to a doctor. They can prescribe medicine that corrects chemical imbalances which may be causing this lack of feeling.

I feel you, OP. I might be depressed too. In my case it's that I failed at the important things in life: over 40, no kids, TC under 50, never had a promotion, and no prospects of changing jobs or any idea how to. It sneaks up on you and before you know it, while you were just feeling appreciative for not being homeless or flipping hamburgers all day, you've lived an empty life. You young folks out there, don't let the years pass you by. Go after what you want in life now because it only gets harder as time passes.