She's alone over there for last 2 years since my dad passed away. She asks me to come back on every phone call everyday. What can I do besides bringing her here with me which I'm already working on.
Get her a visitors visa and ask her to come live with you for a few months every year. That'll ease the situation.
Lost my Dad a few years ago. I travel to India 2-4 times every year since then. I make short trips of 1-2 weeks or so. She stopped coming to US because she used to get bored sitting at home watching TV all day and nobody to talk to. She cannot drive and she is not comfortable talking in English. And she needs to visit doctors for different old age ailments almost every other month or so - something which I cannot manage in USA. Plus, I am single. So no grandkids to play around with as well. Planning to move back to India in another 4 years once I get my OCI. That way it would be easier for me to move back to USA at a later point in life if I need to. Tough situation. This whole GC shit made my plans awry. I am always thinking about her well being and sometimes I do feel selfish esp when she gets sick.
Your OCI happens after citizenship correct ?
What is OCI?
Yes mate, everyone.
How about going back? For a while at least. It's possible to earn huge salaries in India if you are good, & it's not exactly the end of the world having to live there.
Are the salaries comparable to US I terms of cost of living ?
Senior/L5/staff SWEs can make over 1cr at right companies. CoL is rising fast, but still peanuts compared to US or EU. So you tell me.
Go back
Just go man. What do you do with all the money when your mom is alone there ?
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Yeah, I agree go back. You will miss her later.
Bring her over here.
If she’s elderly but not too old she’ll miss her social circle and will age faster here. Does he want it? I doubt
Go back. It is not worth your own time either. In about 20 years, US may no longer remain attractive for migration.
An option is to save money and go back in 5 years or 10 years.
No, that n+1 year return plan never works. Besides, you can make a lot more net income in India.
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Start by doing more regular face time chats. Say 1-2 times a week. Much better than phone calls. Plan a coupe of trips home yearly if yoi can afford. Have mom visit as well.
Thanks. I do FaceTime her. But she struggles with technology.
Why not just have her visit you?