Arranged Marriages Might Be a Good Idea
No I am not Indian, but I do think that given the gap in dating skill and attractiveness across the human population, it is a good idea to bring back something like arranged marriage for at least a part of the population. The current system of people freely selecting their partners works only for people who are very skilled at attracting people of the opposite sex or people who are naturally attractive. But for the bottom say 20% of the male population, it is absolute hell because you have no one. Instead, it would be better to say have a system where by 25 years of age you have to get married and by 30 you have to have kids and some sort of matchmaker or your parents set you up for such marriage by that age. Sure, it might not feel so great to be married to someone that you don't even like but over time you will get to be familiar with her/him and you will get used to it. It would be better than to waste the best 10-15 years of your life getting disappointed only to end up settling for someone you don't like or being single for life. At least it saves time to do other things and you get to have kids early on in life rather than miss out on it because you waited too long (or got dumped too late).
Ok then. There are matchmakers who can arrange someone for you. Just got to donate your kidneys to them.
Indian here, not a fan of arranged marriages. Work on yourself, have your hobbies, stop trying so hard. Women will come to you if you just be you.
Poor guy is totally out of touch with what arranged marriages look like in 2024. They are almost similar to dating just that your parents also have the app on their phones. First, it's all app based now. Every prospective groom/bride create a profile. You browse through search filters, send connection requests. If there is a match, the primary contact parent swap their kids numbers. From here, it's pretty much like dating. No parent involvement. The boy and the girl talk to each other offline, meet and see if there is a match after dating for a few months. If not, it's back to square one. The only difference is that your parents know the girl or boy you are seeing and the primary intention is longer term that is to get married. Girls obviously have the upper hand here too. Fewer girls more guys. Arranged marriage was never inferior to dating. And now it's similar to dating, which to me is unfortunate.
Honestly arranged marriages are more like a business deal where men get judged on their TC and women on their looks. To add to this, you have unfair DV laws against men. It's such a raw deal.
Aren't dating apps the same? Men judged on TC, or appearance of TC. Women on looks.
Before you resign yourself to feeling miserable: 1. Hit the gym consistently (3-4x a week) for atleast two years (you’ll start seeing changes from 2-3 months onwards and will a different person 1 year in) 2. Watch your diet and bring your fat % down to ~12-13% (minimum of under 15) 3. Spend money on a good haircut, groom your facial hair and buy good form fitting clothes Come back after you’ve done the above 3, and then let’s talk. There’s no world in which you do all three and don’t get a certain minimum level of attention from women (regardless of your face, height or ethnicity) It’s easy to feel sorry for ourselves, but let’s scrap that sympathy and do something about it.
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Don't assume hair not everyone is fortunate with good hair genetics but yes first two can be controlled
Indian arranged marriage worked because women were suppressed and didn't have any livelihood. Most of them depended on their husbands for even 5 rs. That's why it worked for long time. Now we see so many divorces coz women are earning and don't need the man's support. Your idea won't work for the same reason. We should just accept it's not happening and move on. We tend to feel what we don't have is the most valuable thing. It's not true though. There are lot of people thinking meta job will change their life. Not everyone in marriage is leading a happy life. Lot of them are just hanging in for kids or to avoid alimony.
I have a weird thought which I will never say in public: I think life for men sucks when women are able to be equal to men in society. I know this is not fair to women but it seems that one gender must suffer and maybe the way things used to be worldwide before women's rights took over was actually not so bad for the world.
Oh my when I thought it couldn't get more unhinged 😂
Actually you need to try out both in a single lifetime to decide what appeals to your sensibilities more.
If you want an arranged marriage, go find a matchmaker yourself and enjoy that life. Why the hell should everyone else be required to get married by 25 and be parents by 30? Also, how does this work for queer couples and is there a system for divorce if a pair isn't reconcilable?
TC???
Best reply ever