Bart: Young woman asking me to vacate priority seat

Nov 13, 2019 25 Comments

Today a young woman (20s or 30s) asked me (also a woman) to relinquish my “priority seat” on a crowded bart train for her without any explanation. She did not look pregnant at all. Yet I complied giving her the benefit of doubt. I’m suffering from a foot injury and would have preferred to sit.
Should it be ok to just ask people to get up? What would you have done in my place?


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TOP 25 Comments
  • Intel mtbf
    No harm in asking, looks like it worked on a simpleton.
    Nov 13, 2019 0
  • Flagged by the community.

    • Microsoft panamap
      This is the best answer
      Nov 13, 2019
  • Bloomberg aJRs40
    Real talk some people have health conditions that are not visible but cause standing to be strenuous eg heart conditions and others
    Nov 13, 2019 1
    • Hootsuite kupa123
      Yup! Or rheumatoid conditions.
      Nov 13, 2019
  • New / Product

    New Product

    Kill them with kindness. The other option was the risk of calling them out and them shaming you with some nonsense or real situation that you couldn't have noticed.

    Don't let people ruin your day, brighten theirs with your uninvited kindness.
    Nov 13, 2019 0
  • Databricks bkezjv
    She and anyone for that matter can ask, but you also can say NO
    Nov 13, 2019 0
  • Amazon bdie
    Politely tell them you have foot injury and if they can request someone else.
    Nov 13, 2019 0
  • Apple wYjB72
    My pregnant wife (~8 months) had a similar experience from a woman who asked for the seat. As my wife tells it, the woman wasn’t very friendly. She said no and kept her seat.
    Nov 13, 2019 0
  • Apple


    Software engineer
    Yes it should be OK to ask people to get up. Everyone should have the right to ask.

    But I would’ve asked her why she wanted it. If her reason was something dumb like “I want to browse Blind on the ride” then don’t give her your seat!
    Nov 13, 2019 0
  • Microsoft Oniz
    Maybe she had a foot injury too? If someone asks you for the seat, there might be a reason to do so in their head. So you give the seat to them, then you ask someone else for the seat. In this case you get up and give the seat to her, and then you go ask people sitting at other seat to give you their seat cause your leg is hurt.
    Nov 13, 2019 3
    • Microsoft panamap
      This is confusing , is it musical chairs :)
      Nov 13, 2019
    • VMware divavm
      Yaah and someone you asked would goto next seat... game must go on!
      Nov 13, 2019
  • Cadence Mariposa
    Was she at least polite when she asked? Or did she sound entitled?
    Nov 13, 2019 1
    • Autodesk simplhuman
      I don’t know what she exactly said but I could figure out she asked for the seat. Kinda entitled I’d say.
      Nov 13, 2019


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