I'm just starting to go on dates with a guy who works as a consultant at KPMG. He works ridiculous hours, and I really want to spend more time with him, but it's tough. What are the busiest times for those working in Finance? When should he be more free? What are some good ways to spend more time together considering he's always working and super busy
Busiest season for a consultant and generally in advisory will be Q1, that is, right now. The reasoning is that client budgets reset and there are new targets to hit for the rest of the year. As a result, spending on third party consultants (and other vendors and advisors) is the highest now. That being said, depending on your boyfriend’s specialty within consulting, it could be spread more evenly throughout the year or have a true “busy season” like auditors have. Good ways to spend more time: go outside and do stuff! He probably spends enough time inside on a computer, so stuff like movies and maybe even dinner dates may be too cramped. Try some experiences that you both can have fun, unwind and remember once you guys are back on the grind come Monday. That being said it’s definitely a personal preference.
In terms of seasonality, generally speaking, it depends on the job. Certain roles will have “busy seasons”, some of which are determined by quarter end and year end (clients and companies wanting to close deals by the end of the year, for example). Generally, certain seasons are pretty predictable, at least in my case in investment banking (IB). December slows down because of holidays and winter break for people’s kids’ schools; August is generally the deadest vacation month (Europe is basically gone). January is new year and everyone’s back and ready to work, so people often get crushed through February, and then September is back to school and relaunching/refocusing on deals to try to close by end of year
January is a lot of structural meetings / organizations but definitely not a lot of deal flow. February-Summer is busy, and then before Labor Day everything is slow Then from Labor Day-December is busy again. And then December is slow again. That’s generally how the cycle works.
I’m surprised he’s so busy. I haven’t done shit since the new year 😅
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Have sex at night it's so relaxing
Stay connected through text, email, etc. If he gets to leave work early unexpectedly, make the most of it. Be independent and don’t act too emotionally needy. Don’t wait around for him and expect that sometimes he’ll have to cancel plans. Always keep your own hobbies, friends, back up plans, etc. I’m married to someone with an intense job and I’m used to being self sufficient for the most part but when I was with him in my early 20s it was a learning experience and there were lots and lots of tears shed over his lack of availability. Don’t take it personally and work around it.
As a former kpmg consultant — it really depends on what type of consulting he is doing — if it’s M&A then he’s kinda busy most of the year — my gf then and now wife had a hard time too but it worked out for us — be patient and enjoy the time — it will get better
Unfortunately I am guessing that his work is project based, and not seasonal. This means he’s likely busy year round outside of times when his live projects roll off (so it can be any time). Usually, time around the holidays are freer, and around major 3 day weekends. The key is a willingness to be spontaneous — if he’s just starting out at KPMG, he’s likely not controlling his time or hours — ie. go out to dinner on weekdays if he gets out early, make weekend plans but make sure they’re cancellable. I know that sounds like it sucks but it goes a long way. And, it should hopefully be short lived when you take the LT view.