Communication with my teammate
I have an issue communicating with a senior member. I am swe. The way he treats me makes me feel that I am stupid. E.g., most times he tells me or slacks me "in future" do this, do that, or, "remember that it is not the way we do it" or "why did you did that, did not we talk about it in our meeting?" Or, "you shoud do it yourself" or he discuss and find documents for trivial things to prove he is right. I do not enjoy working with him and it's like controlling. He is a pain in ass. Also, I should note that I have worked with other senior in team and I loved it. Some small things that the other senior pass over easily, he insists in his point for hours and bring codes and docs to prove he is right. Note: this behavior is consistent, not a few times. Any recommendation? TC: 200k Yoe: 2
In future post your TC.
😂 love this
What makes you think he isn’t trying to help you? What makes you think you’re more correct than the experience of the senior member? No idea just questions.
Because I cmminucated with other seniors, and what they easily pass, he discuss over it for hours
Epic has a really good point. You imply that other seniors know better than to worry whereas in truth they might not care the way they should. Either way, it sounds like the real problem isn’t that the senior corrects you but instead how they do it. And that this really bothers you. Change teams and save your mental health.
Not even a single option in poll about a possibility that he can be right.
You can’t grow with your self defense attitude.
Whar made you think I am self defensing?
You just did
Sounds like it is you and not ur teammate. In future do ur work
I am doing my work, I would love to know why you think it is me
If you were Indeed, you could be talking about me. I regularly say shit like "Hey this code review is massive- if it looks like it's gonna be more than 3-5 files, let me know and we can find a way to break things apart more." I try to make sure to point out the benefit (eg in terms of performance reviews, or effort), but I'm sure it comes across as bossy or preachy.
If I do come across like that, I don't really care.
I like that tbh, you are suggesting help, abd you seem right
I think he’s trying to help you and you have a chip on your shoulder and are not receptive to constructive advice. Suggest you do some introspection.
I have recieved feedback from others, but this one is like happening all the time, non-stop, over any small things
Feel free to ignore him. If he means well he won’t give a shit if you take it or leave it. Though if it’s valid advice and hurts you later in performance reviews, watch out.
Imagine trying to politely defend your codebase from an onslaught of poor quality code that deviates from established patterns that were clearly documented. You will eventually become the “controlling pain in the ass,” as it’s literally your job at that point.
Take positive from senior feedback that would help you to grow in the future but continue to experiment new things.
New thingd you mean new job?
New ideas ,innovation
Sounds like constructive criticism. You need to do better.
Criticism is good, but how you feel you get it from him all the time?
Nah the wording definitely matters