Contemplating no job or uprooting life

Having a wife, kid and home, the RTO to Seattle is really questioning my need and desire for money vs uprooting my life. I have been working non-stop since 2009 pretty much. I've saved money in my IRA and 401k and also helped max out my wife's IRA and 401k. We also bought a home. All told, I do have about $1.7M in total networth, but the majority is locked in retirement accounts and real estate. I have about $250k in liquid investment or cash. At the same time, I spend nearly $10k/month on my bills, between that day cares, mortgage, SALT taxes, car, etc. And beyond that, working 9-5 is a defined part of my life. Its part of my identity. I love to engineer, build software etc. But right now, I am at a crossroads of figuring out: - Do I personally move up to Seattle / Fly up and come home every other weekend? - I anticipate this will cost $3k/mo in logistics - Do I uproot my family, find a new school for my kid, and go to a place where I have no friends or connection, other than co-workers. - Amazon will pay for the relo at least - Or... do I simply not comply with the RTO, let Amazon fire me and continue to try my luck finding a new role. - This may mean an extended period with no job - This may mean dipping into savings - This may mean pulling my kid out of day care anyway - This may mean using my wife's company's shitty insurance plan - better than nothing - This may mean not being able to save, etc I guess this post is part me writing out what life could look like down the line if worst case scenarios come true. A part of me feels that if I was good enough to get into Amazon, I should be able to find a new employer, but I can't imagine getting a job with my current TC. My current salary is Base $205k Bonus / Stock ~ $220k/year I live in a semi-big city in So Cal, there is some opportunity down there, but not nearly as much as LA / SF / NY / etc but I believe it is out there. One last thing... even though I make ~$425k/year, I have become a bit jaded. Even with this salary, buying a legit, full family home in So Cal is still out of range - I was recently only qualified for a $1.1M place - but good homes are like $1.5-2M. That may be another topic, but a part of my feels even my current "high" salary isn't enough so whats the point for now. At the same time, I literally have no one to complain to or ask advice, as every looks at me like I am some rich asshole. Appreciate any advise. Yeah I know, very first world problems. But just keep in mind, I got a long, painful way to fall. #amazon #rto