OK Blind. I spent 8 years of my 20’s in a long term relationship. It didn’t work out. I took 2 years off and I’ve been completely single. It is time. The question I want to ask—what is the best way to meet people like you in the wild? My problems: - I don’t really drink. I don’t like alcohol. I don’t like drunk people. I hate bars. - I exercise but I’m not good at it… I want to just join a run group or something but I am so slow. - My hobbies are lame and not social. My really big problems: - I’m a woman in her early 30’s, lol, aka old. I agree with you, ok! Bring it on and tell me how doomed I am. I know!!! I gotta try though I’m not dead yet!!! - I’m a highly compensated tech worker and it’s just very hard to try to date someone with less career ambition than me. I don’t like the rest and vest type. - I want kids. In my 30’s. Enough said. I get it. Problem. - I have a pattern of dating the shy, misunderstood brilliant coder who may or may not be on the spectrum. I need to try new type of tech worker. What I have going for me: - TC: $415k (next year $520k) - I’m ok looking and average height and weight. (On the smaller side if anything). - I grew up so much being in a LTR in my 20’s and I am confident that I know what I want now out of a relationship. - I’m not one of those feminist progressives whose ideology keeps women single and childless. Ex) I’d be ok taking a career step back to be a homemaker for a few years before jumping back in. Why I want Blind advice: I feel like I have found my home in the tech industry. I’ve felt like an outsider my entire life (too smart, too hard working) and the last decade at a FAANG has been wonderful. I have found my people. I adore everyone’s quirkiness. It’s not a TC thing. So please tell me… where do you go? Where do you hang out? What groups do you join? How are you trying to meet people??? Can I manifest a connection by hanging out somewhere near a tech building?? Should I wear a sweatshirt that says single and will not report to HR if asked out??? Which apps are you on??? I live in Seattle. Native Californian. Considering moving back to be closer to family, but I prefer Seattle at the moment. Suggestions for Seattle or Bay Area. I guess LA too but I don’t think the odds are in my favor there. #dating
This is kinda cringe. But if you are even an average female- you should get 100 of likes on dating apps.
Cringe? She's straight to the point and adorable. But I'm a married woman so I can't help her lol
You should help your husband first
Would you be okay dating someone with a lower TC? Not a founder but let’s say somebody who is in biz ops making 200k at best.
Lonked in tc is 200k
And is in BizOps.
Just get on dating apps and take flattering photos. Avoid heavy filters and makeup, and also dress modestly to filter out the wrong kind of men. Hinge and CMB are my favorite. Be up front about what you’re looking for so no one wastes your time. Plenty of women are having kids now later on, it’s very normal.
CMB is bad
The free version is bad. If you are willing to pay for it I think it’s great.
- start running. In 3 months time you should be able to join a social run club ! (Not the competitive ones). Your company should have a run club too. - not sure if you are into dancing, join a salsa class or some class you can commit to once a week. It’s just fun to do things together, without having to make 1:1 conversations. The more you meet them, you’ll build friendships and it’s a great way to meet their friends - go for tech meetups! Usually the social, career driven peeps go here. Either some start up event, some D&I mixer, a talk, etc, you’ll meet people.
No offense but you sound mediocre in every way other than your TC
Where did OP claim to be 10/10 in any way? Why is this post bringing out insecure guys, lmao.
No I'm just saying if a guy posted this people would be telling him to work on self improvement. I'm hinting the same to OP because it's sound advice
@Google she didn’t. Not too hard to trigger the local incels. Pathetic.
Triggered the local white knight. Pathetic.
I am also going through the same things
Blind guys are here to support you
Go to any tech conference and look for the principal programmers. They’ll fit your TC need - no guarantees about the rest of your desires though
30s isn't old.. right? Taking a step back to be a homemaker ... but 520k salary... Have the children go on maternity, keep the children , have the husband be the home maker. Finding a bachelor in that range in hard. That being said I'm single TC 100k probably gonna get fired but ;D just Amazon things. Here's some help you with fitness 💪 it's a slow process be consistent , eat healthy, consume half your weight in protein like 150lbs consumes like 75 grams of protein a day. Get lots of sleep and youll be fit an bona-fide athlete in 8 months, BUT YA GOTTA FOCUS
Your problem is you didn't include TC
TC is there. 415k currently and 520k next year.
This was OP’s way of filtering out guys that can’t even read.