I've been married for 7 years and my marriage has always been troubled from the start. We dated for a year and then moved to another city together due to work. With that, I didn't follow the normal pattern of dating x years, getting engaged x years, until I decided whether or not I wanted to live with that person. It all happened very fast and within a year we were already living together. Sharing expenses was convenient. And the passion was fading, in addition to the fact that we thought very differently. But I settled in and we moved to another city again. In an attempt to save the relationship and sex we start to have more sex, and she became pregnant. That was something that made me see that it wasn't the best alternative, now I'm stuck in a relationship I wanted to get out of, and now there's a child. I am afraid of getting divorced because of the child, but at the same time I would not like to be unhappy. Thoughts? suggestions? Edit: Regardless of staying together or not, I will not abandon this child. That is, I will fulfill all my responsibilities. #mentalhealth
When the child comes youâre going to be even unhappier on 4 hours sleep each night. Unfortunately it sounds like time to move on.
Take care of your family, Baby First! No Abortion under Republican control
Dude.. its not your decision and why should they have a kid in this circumstance...please spare me the God nonsense.. like the kid is here but who are you to make that decision for anyone politics or not
Happens all the time. Tough it out. Life is hard but short. You will hear that the happiness of the parent will cause the child to be happy or that you should build your own life to be happy. Ignore these
-abortion -honest 1:1 -divorce Or -keep the baby -keep it pent up -stay together and work out your issues/divorce anyway Either way the world moves on. Whichever option you choose, promise yourself you won't regret it.
man up and do what's best for your kid. You had 7 years to bail. Not now. What are you gonna do? Repeat the same crap with someone younger? The world has enough lost kids. Spare us from anymore
Not sure what type of problem you have. But most of the time , adjusting in life is very important to have long relationships! Most problems arise when people don't accept their mistakes and keep arguing for subsequent useless things ! Practice to say sorry and accept mistakes without investigating whose problem it is at first .. See the good sides of the person as personally you liked the person and got married!! No one is perfect in this world !
This ^^^
Iâm in the same boat as you. Try to work it out for the sake of your child, if all attempts fail consider an amicable divorce. But do not consider divorce unless nothing works, especially if you have a daughter. Donât want to give her a head start to daddy issues. Best of luck to you.
And in your case, what are you doing?
Many people date for only a short period of time and then get married. 7 years is a long time to remain married unhappily if you knew it was doomed with those circumstances. By now you have been together almost a decade. There are also many ways to âattempt to save the relationshipâ by having more sex but also prevent pregnancy. It sounds to me like you perhaps were not thinking with the correct head and now youâd prefer to have âthe childâ. That doesnât seem quite fair to your spouse or child. Is there anything about your partner that you do like? Why did you date and move together in the first place? I would try therapy in a better effort to find those reasons.
We started living together because we fell in love, and we stayed together out of convenience. Prioritizing work and splitting the bills. The relationship is not unbearable, but it has dropped a lot in quality due to different interests and perspectives. Therapy is really something I'm doing.
Might be in the minority here but you now have a duty to that child. Screw your happiness. Do everything in your power to make it work
Eh, thatâs a slippery and potentially mentally damaging slope. Itâs healthy for kids to see their parents HAPPY. Having miserable parents who hate each other is a mind**** for a kid and can screw them up for life. Be happyâbe single. The DAY I left my ex, my entire life changed for the better. I gave up alcohol for good, my mental health improved 100%, and I am now an amazing single parent and a HAPPY and mentally strong example for my kid. I donât regret divorcing my ex even one bit.
Thanks for sharing ir ItsMe0505
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