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Faang Engineers who got laid off, how long did it take to get a new job?
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How big are the balls of Google to lay off thousands and then do 70 BILLION in stock buyback?
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If your team does daily standups, your manager is a micromanager
As guys within tech we have many stereotypes around us, that we’re asocial, unattractive and overpaid. And frankly those seem often true to me, at least from who I’ve seen. Women these days have access to all sorts of guys, former college athletes, finance guys (a field which both pays more and is populated with better looking and more social men than us), trust fund guys with sports cars and yachts, lifelong bodybuilders. I mean why wouldn’t women pick those guys over us? If I was a woman I would. I don’t blame them. So do you guys ever just feel completely inadequate in terms of dating or even just existing? I feel like a natural inclination towards hard work and competition is what brought us all here, trying to get to better companies, better positions, better TCs. But the most fulfilling aspects of life always escape us. Like the race was over before we even reached the starting line. What’s the point?
speak for yourself, having game is not related to your industry
Untrue
"game" has been exposed as a fraud. The entire PUA community was banking on game. They were outed and destroyed.
Please go outside, talk to real people, and consider seeing a therapist.
I tried all that and wasn’t a fan
This is your problem, not your job. You live in a bubble where you think you know everything, but you actually only have a very narrow view of the world. Women don’t care about your job as long as it’s decent enough. They care more about how you treat them, if you’re fun to be around, etc. Seems like you’re whole world is tech and you’re trying to view women and everyone else through that lens. It’ll be really hard to make a connection that way because that’s not how others view life. Try other people’s hobbies, travel, be open minded. You can learn how other people think and feel and that will help you connect with them and fill in your gaps
Nope. Cant relate. SWE is a prestigious field. Top 20% of men get 80% of women on dating apps. Feels bad but you’re just not the top 20.
No it’s like the top 5% or less
Prestigious 😂🤢
our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure
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truth is something that you tell yourself
You are not overpaid at salesforce
Oh I’m sorry 🥜soft
Work with what you got. I’m attractive, antisocial, only get along with about 10% of the people I meet, a neurotic over thinker and am ok with it.
As a woman I would choose you over a finance bro or a bloke with a yacht
My guess is you’re older and you’ve already been with a lot of the hot or rich guys who didn’t need to commit and now want beta bucks to settle down
Yes the stereotypes are true but I don’t feel inadequate. I excelled in the areas I was brought up to value. Stuff like being social was ignored. I have no doubt I would’ve excelled at those other things had they been emphasized. Success in other areas also require the same type of grinding. Rat race is not over as tech has a higher ceiling than finance but either way tech people can FIRE if we want.
“Tech has a higher ceiling than finance” Not really. I mean yeah there’s a minuscule percentage that wins the lottery but the vast majority of big finance guys are gonna make more then even FAANG
there is no not really it is or it isn’t higher
Don’t rate yourself based on whether women will pick you. Focus on building meaningful relationships- and who knows - maybe you will find someone you have a connection with someday - or not. Either ways - don’t rate yourself based on that.
Why not? The fact is there ARE much better looking and richer guys than you or me and they do much better with women. It’s just a fact
I am a woman. And better!= richer and better != ‘better looking’ in all cases. Sometimes personal connections matter. Anyway your worth as a person does not have to depend on whether a woman finds you attractive.
Women do not function the way you think they do
Cope, look at dating app data
No that’s just you 👀