Do you have any mental issues?
I think I will lose my mind soon. Recently moved to the Bay Area for a new beginning (at work and culture). Very introverted and don't like making new friends, meeting people and even small talk. Family is in the East Coast. Close friends are spread out in the US. Broke up with a girl last year after 6 years of relationship. I feel worn out with work, stress and anxiety. Drinking and smoking have now catapulted to another level. Live alone in a studio. 8am-8pm work. Come home - order food, drink alcohol, smoke pot and go to bed at 1am. Thinking of trying other drugs. Watch football and soccer on weekends. Lazy as shit. Deal issues with a friend who has terrible mental illness and another close family member who has something similar too. I'm a good listener and people I know pour out their issues to me. I listen but they don't get that I don't want to hear it but hey, they're the only ones who care to talk to me. My sister is the only person who I like to speak to now. She is moving to another country soon and I will lose that support too. Don't want to bother her with my shit life. Blah blah blah..... How do I turn this around to have a reason to live?!!!? No religious or spiritual BS!
I made a life goal 10 years ago at my lowest point and dedicated nearly every moment and action towards accomplishing that goal. Knowing one day I would seize upon that kept me going. I accomplished that goal 3 weeks ago.
How did you come up with that? I meant the transition towards it?
I was playing Sims 3 at the time and it was kind of a major game mechanic.
You must see a therapist. It will be the best money you have ever invested in yourself (some companies cover it in health insurance too or mindspace ). You find one that works for you and that will be a great starting point.
Agreed, you may have to go through a few to find one that you gel with but find the right one and it can be so worth it
You should probably see a therapist instead of asking on Blind. Everyone's experience is a different, what works for one person might not work for you. Going to someone who is a Doctor in the field is there best option.
Use up your work benefits. Schedule medical appts and see therapist. Itβll force you to go out. Join a gym, join a meetup. Good luck.
The good part is you addressed there is a problem and broke it down. Next step is to address it in a more structured way. Let's do it right here, and evaluate possible solutions. 1. Personality Well, I would say being introverted isn't really a problem. Lot of introverted people out there who are content. But if you think that aspect hinders you, then you need to start talking to more people. Start small - start by saying hi to the people on your floor you don't know. Join a club. Go to social gatherings more often. 2. Family and friends Well, most people on this app have their family far away, sometimes in another country. Stay in touch with them. Call them on weekends and try to visit them whenever you get a chance. Support your sister, I am sure moving to a different country is a big move for her. 3. Relationship Breaking up after 6 years of relationship can be incredibly hard. But give it some time to sink in. Then start dating again. Don't let this breakup turn you into an a**hole but let it make you more humble. 4. Work If you are worn out with work, try talking to your manager. If he isn't supportive, change teams or job. Ensure you work efficiently during the day and try your best to leave on time. 5. Health There are two components to this - physical and mental. Your lifestyle choices affect no one more than yourself. So make sure you make the right choices. I am sure you realize your current lifestyle isn't great. Mental health should also improve if you follow the above pointers. Talk to a professional if you feel the need. Setting small goals and achieveing them helps me personally. But I also make sure I give myself slack, because sometimes I just want to unwind and relax, do absolutely nothing. So prepare a plan that works for you. It goes without saying, I am happy to chat.
Thanks for being detailed. Being an introvert has never been an issue for me. My parents have way too many things to deal and care the least of me. Sister is quite older than me and married for my support. I'm over that relationship. Yes, I probably need a break from work but I hate to get of off it knowing I have work to do. Don't get the motivation for anything else though!!!
Work less, make more friends
Start with a subtle life change like working out, and better health and go from there
8am to 8pm is too much. I was having anxiety issues this year, and I reduced my working time to 10 am to 5 pm. 1 hour lunch in between. This has helped a lot. Take care of your self, and give yourself time and space to feel okay.
First step is to see a therapist/counsellor. You'll get thru this πͺ
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