I used to help without thinking much but when I was in need there were no one to lend me a hand. It made me bitter about helping anyone in general. Any suggestions on getting over it? What will you do? Edit1: To the people who say yes, can you please explain why? Edit 2: Sorry, didn’t give enough context. When I say help, it’s not random acts of kindness but something big that it will have impact throughout their life or change their life for good.
It really depends on what you mean by help people, I'm much more likely to help somebody get a job as a software engineer that I am to just give a random person money
Yes for family. Maybe for others.
I help people expecting they will help somebody else if the occasion emerges. It does not have to be me and maybe my gesture inspired them to help somebody else if they can. Helping others only under the condition they will be around in the future to help me is very selfish and defeats the purpose of a selfless act of kindness.
Yes, because it says something about you and your character. If there are people in your life who are just leeches, drop them. But if you want to maintain a relationship, then yes.
Yes, because if I'm capable of helping somebody why wouldn't I? Lacking context this can mean a lot of things. Giving somebody a ride to it from work, dropping of papers, explaining an algorithm. It's not like I'm going to help somebody move I just met but in general if it doesn't cost me much or I enjoy it I don't expect a reward or reciprocation in return. Of course there's also projection going on. I expect everybody would act this way because I would.
If everyone only put good vibes into the world expecting the same people to send them back, there would be a lot less good vibes in the world
Yes, because I believe in karma. Even if it’s not that person who returns the favor, you’ll bring others into your life that are willing to help you.
I help people if I think there is a chance they will pay the favor forward.
I just want to share my story. Lower middle class indian guy, father used to make 10,000 INR monthly. Was a bright student. Bank gave only around 70% amount of total education loan . Rest was still huge for my father as he had a family to feed also. In my case when we ask for money to either relative or someone with the promise that we will return ASAP, they used to say no I don't have. So most of time we took money from local rich people with interest rate 5-10%. So now if someone ask me money for either education or treatment purpose I simply give them while knowing that they are not going tk return it. During lockdown I gave 1.5 lakh to one of my poor relative to treat his 7 year old kid. When ever I go their home , they tell me that you saved my kid. It gives me self satisfaction and peace .
No; why would I help someone who won’t help me?