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I've never admitted this before but I'm married to an alcoholic. I know, it's not the most glamorous thing to admit, but it's the truth. My husband has been struggling with an alcohol addiction for years, and it's gotten to the point where it's ruining our marriage. It all started innocently enough. He would come home from work and have a few beers to relax. But over time, his drinking started to increase. He would start drinking earlier in the day, and he would drink more. I've tried everything to get him to stop drinking. I've begged him, I've pleaded with him, I've threatened to leave him. But nothing seems to work. He always promises to stop, but he always breaks his promises. I'm so tired of living like this. I'm tired of being afraid of what my husband is going to do when he's drunk. I'm tired of being ashamed of my marriage. I'm tired of being married to a drunk. I don't know what to do anymore. I'm starting to think that I'm going to have to leave him. But I don't want to do that. I love him, and I want to help him. But I don't know how to help him if he won't help himself.
What are you even wondering about. Few beers is already bad. He needs to sober up or else.
Consider taking yourself to an al-anon meeting. You may find comfort and support there
Wtf send the husband there
Al-Anon is for the families of people who may be alcoholic or struggling with alcohol. https://al-anon.org/. Most of us feel similarly to OP, we don’t know how to navigate the effect a drunk has on our lives. (Unless we are the drunk, then AA might be a better choice.) Al-Anon is an opportunity to work on ourselves. We can’t change other people. We can only make decisions for ourselves.
Have you considered drinking with him and chilling?
😿 I actually left my ex bf because this is the future I saw when I thought about us
Hey. I’m sorry about the other comments on this post. I’m not sure I can give any advice either to make it better. Have an open hearted conversation with him if you believe he loves you and values you, if there’s an ounce of doubt on the if part, I think you know what to do. At the end, I wish things get better for you, and I hope the rest of your life is filled with things that make you smile. We all deserve happiness life is as complicated at it is already. Please reach out if you ever need to talk.
I was drinking 15 drinks a day all the time for a while during wfh. Not a great time. How much does your husband drink and has he tried medication?
Discuss with him on a 4-6 month plan to bring alcohol to 0. Find and show him stories of health, family, emotional consequences of being alcoholic. There might be videos on yt. Create a healthier alternative for him everyday eg going to evening walks, movies, gym, sports, family calls. This will reduce the time window to drink in evening.
Take him to a rehab
He depressed or something?
Send him to me - I’ll take good care of him 😜
Are you gonna give the bj that his wife used to give?
Oh i will and more! He will be different man’s after that, I promise