34 y/o East Asian male, 5’11” moderately athletic build. TC >600K at current stock price. I lived in NYC for a summer 13 years ago when I was interning so I generally know the vibe. I’m just curious what my life would be like if I moved there today from the west coast. How easy is it to make friends and meet women for casual dating? Had a painful breakup about 2 years ago and been thinking about a change in scenery.
Trade in the 4s for the 9s
Pretty damn easy, if you can’t date in New York, you’re pretty much fucked anywhere else. I’m saying this with 100% certainty having grown up in NY my entire life and living in Seattle and SF
how do u compare Seattle with SF in terms of dating
Not the person you are replying to, but I can answer this as i lived in Seattle for 7.5 years (just moved to NYC), and have spent a ton of time in SF (plus lots of friends in all 3 of the cities, so we talk about it quite a bit). in terms of dating, it would be SF < Seattle <<< NYC.
NYC dating is harder than SF - I’ve gone on >100 dates SF it’s super easy to stand out, NYC is actually competitive
You can’t be serious right now, the ratio is so skewed in mens favor in NYC, theres no competition
If you went on 100+ dates and nothing came out of it, you may be the problem
Move to LA for a California vibe with better ratio and selection. The NYC style of living and downgrade in living space will wreck most Californians after your first winter
Winter sucks but honestly I found COL to be more affordable than California. At least the Bay Area. Yes some places are crazy expensive but generally there’s so many more apartments that you can usually find something within your price range. I know it’s not cheap but a solid 1 br can be found in Manhattan for < 3.5k. Surrounding Burroughs and Jersey even cheaper.
OP get an Airbnb in NYC for a month and do a test drive. You’ll have your answer after that. Life doesn’t magically change moving somewhere but honestly nyc has all the opportunities. If you take care of yourself you can go on a date like every day.
Make sure you do this in the fall or spring, NYC is depressing in the winter and there's way too much going on in the summer so those will skew your experience
I'm sorry but NYC is the one of the most beautiful places to be in during the winter. The cold never brings the energy of the people down and that itself is very uplifting. Probably one of the only few places in the world where winter is more than tolerable. Either you know it or you don't 😄
No different, i pull the same caliber. It is better for hookups as women are more aggressive. But if you are struggling idk if it will help much. Friends is much easier
If you are social and somewhat average looking, you will be ok. The key is being social. The better looking you are along with being social, then the world will be your oyster…just make sure you keep your ego in check. You make good money too so that’s one massive hurdle out the way for majority of your dates out here Good luck
How do you relocate to NY since Meta already forced RTO in your current location?
Relocate to the nyc office? Is the math really that hard?
What’s your TC in non-fluctuating money
I mean, you'd be in New York. So that would suck.
Idiot
😂 you def don’t know the vibe out here my guy