Go to NFL playoff game with my dad?
Team won and they’re playing where there’s a chance to go with my dad. At first he was like no, but changed his mind. I’d have to fly him out and stay a few days. The issue is that he has dementia, so I need to get my mom or sister to go with him on the plane. They’re kinda against him going. Getting flights it’s expensive now. My sister and mom is just talking me out of it and go to some game closer or a game another time. Thoughts should do?
go there. watch on TV.
Not. Sure. I get it? 🤔
im saying if the point of the game is to watch it together (because you are both big fans of the team), and its too expensive and too much of a hassle to fly him and family to you in the game city, instead just fly yourself there and watch with him on TV. probably a better view from the couch anyway.
Do it. Once in a lifetime. What team?
Is this something your dad would appreciate (i.e. fan of team/football, before onset of dementia)? Sounds like a lot of logistics to coordinate, trying to gauge the sentimental value behind the gesture
Yes, this is a team he’s followed and been into for long before I was born. We call each other to talk about the game(s). I’ve been wanting to fly him out a while, but playoffs never made it possible. Now he has dementia, he’s still “there”, but I’m not sure in the future how feasible it would be. The logistics are def making it challenging. My sister made a point which is wouldn’t it be better if I just go out and see him and we can do something together for several days than watch a game for a few hours.
Thanks for the added context— 100% do it. Would mean a lot to your old man and the window to do stuff like this is closing. Understand your sister’s point, I feel like mine would make the exact same case. I still think you should try and go to the game. But you have that alternative as a backup
His dementia is only going to get worse. If he has any chance of understanding what’s going and will therefore enjoy the game, you two should go. My dad grew up in the Bronx, and I wish that I had gone to a Yankees game at the old stadium with him so he could point out the experiences he had had as a kid.
Yeah he’ll understand. I’m pretty sure he’ll remember too. Maybe not. He seem to forgot when my sister took him to a game that’s closer to where he lives several years ago.
Not sure how much your dad will remember considering he has dementia but on the other hand you will remember for this for a very long time, and you will cherish this moment when you are older. Do it.
My own father had dementia. At one point he took himself for a walk in the middle of the night and we had to go find him. It was scary. The easiest thing to do here would be to go fly to him. Then go spend some quality time with him. Especially since he's not always got all of his wits about him his usual surroundings will be more comfortable for him. It sounds like flying him would be a chore for the entire family. Spend as much time as you can with him. You'll never get this time back.
I think you probably missed your window to do this safely. I'd probably just fly to him
100%
Yes, totally worth it. If you can figure out how to do it. Drop an email to the venue saying you’re coming with your dad and he has dementia and if they can help, it would be great. You’re a good son!
Where is the game? Buffalo?
Does it matter?
Yes