My parents are divorced. My old dad is nearly out of money and is asking me, my sibling, and my mom for money to support him. My sibling recently quit their job to pursue their dreams, and don't have a lot of savings. My dad will run out of money in a years time. I currently have the most savings from just my internship money. I interned at Meta this past summer, so just half a year ago, I was confident I would be graduating with a 200k+ job and would be able to support him and my family by myself. I ended up with an EE rating and getting rejected. I started applying to jobs late because I was hoping Meta would work out. 100+ apps and I got like 2 interviews, and failed out of Palantir's onsite after what I thought was a good performance. Now I have no interview prospects. I can't help but feel responsible for not being better. I could've passed the Palantir interview if I was better, I could've gotten GE for Meta and gotten a return offer if I just worked a little harder, I could've accepted an Amazon intern offer instead of Meta last year if I just chose right. Instead, everyday, it's my dad pestering my sibling for money, them crying and arguing with my mom, and me just feeling immensely guilty for being in a position where I can't help anyone. This isnt an amount of money that an extra part-time job would solve, but something the exhubuerent big tech salaries would've solved. I've been given opportunities where I could be the one solving this issue, but I've failed due to lack of discipline or foresight. Now it feels like my family is suffering as a consequence. Just ranting. There are a lot of ways I can try to make this money, but for now I don't really see a path forward.
Your dads bad decisions are not your fault and you have zero obligation to support him. Don’t feel bad about your job situation keep your head up and keep applying. You’ve got this.
What dream did the sibling pursue??
Banks are hiring
Stay strong! It’s going to work out soon. It looks like you have some solid internship experience and interviewed a few places already. Keep applying and prepping. It will eventually work out, you’ll see. It’s a game of numbers. Apply to a lot of places, one of them will be a match eventually. Look for startup opportunities as well. Keep networking. Reach out to recruiters on LinkedIn. Something will catch.
Keep your head up. You still have plenty of time to look for a job. Take a deep breath. You had what it takes to get a Meta internship to begin with. You have what it takes to get a job elsewhere. It’s a numbers game unfortunately so you just gotta keep applying and not give up. Second, I’ve been in a similar position to you with regards to feeling responsible for your family. You are not responsible for your parents and you shouldn’t feel guilt even though it maybe hard not to feel those things at this time. You can do your best to try to support them whenever you get a job, but even then you need to make sure you put yourself and your needs first before helping them.
First off, you shouldn't be having to give money to your dad, its not like you owe him anything. Raising you doesn't require you to pay that back lol. As for the job itself, just apply to anything and everything you can, even if the job doesnt seem glamorous, its difficult to get a job right becuase of the recession and the holidays
If you have gotten in meta, u most likely would be laid off now. Not sure why you are still thinking about this path.
The same thing happened with me in 2020. Lost my FANG internship because of COVID onset. Had family to support abroad. I thought it was the end of the world. 7 months later (1month before graduation) I had 6 job offers in hand. Don't lose hope! Keep working hard A suggestion: reach out to specific people on LinkedIn who have similar experience as you or alumni who have taken the same courses as you. Increases your chances of positive responses compared to randomly reaching out.
Why shouldn't you randomly ask for referrals? Most people won't give them but some people will and that's all that matters
I got a job from a random referral on blind.
Nah, I'm sure they only ask you money cause it was the most convenient route.
Tell your sibling to get their job back.