Hi Blinders, just wanted to ramble about myself. Feeling useless as if I have not achieved anything great in life. I started with Tc- 60K in LCOL and then worked my way up to TC - 95K in about 5 years. Due to personal reasons and health not being on my side wasn't able to be aggressive in jobs. And now that I am fucking 30 I feel I haven't achieved anything that I should be proud of. I got a new job at USAA for Tc- 150k but still when I look at others on blind feel so overwhelmed that I make not even close to what others have. It's so stressful to be in the rat race. WTF!!!!!!! I have an interview with Meta but just feel that I will bomb that and will continue feeling useless. Any tips or guidance for motivation 🙏? #burnout #depression #mentalhealth
When I was 30 i just graduated college, 27k in debt, no job, got dumped and almost deported. You are doing great.
Hmm thanks for sharing your part. My concern is to get over the useless feeling. I just feel blank with grinding Leetcode. Argghhh just nervous and terrified to fail meta interview
And you think getting into meta will help? Say you get in and you triple your TC then they put you on team maintaininf legacy code and patching bugs that nobody cares
Who knows, maybe in a few years you’d become someone that others are only dreaming of😃 Just focus on yourself and on becoming a little bit better than yourself old, rather than someone you don’t even know
Comparison is the thief of joy
True that!!! But it is annoying when some ppl come and rub it on the face that look I bought this and that or keep asking you when are you buying a lux car. And I am like jezz give me a break!!!
cut toxic people out of your life bro
I was a Doordash delivery driver at age 30 (2 years ago) and all I wanted was “ANY JOB” in software industry.
Wow. Can you explain how did you get in meta?
If income is how you define yourself then you will always feel useless, because there will be someone around you that makes way more than you. And even if you make a Million, if you think you are useful because of your income, you are still a loser in many peoples eyes.
Stop comparing yourself to others. Envy is the death of happiness. If you cannot stop yourself from comparing, look down instead of up. There are billions of people who make a fraction of what you do, who struggle and go to sleep hungry and cold.
Spend time with friends/family and have your favorite meal. Relax.
Delete the blind app for a few weeks. It's an ok source of info but the productive posts are 1 in 10 (imo) you are worthy but won't find that validation from others. It's ok to feel useless for a bit but now channel it to being useful to others. Volunteer, reach out to people around you who may need help (not necessarily monetary) my happiness almost took an inverse position to my TC growth rate
You are on the right path, OP. Be angry at yourself is the best motivation to push you forward.
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