Highly stressed out!
I recently moved to the USA, working as a software engineer with extensive experience in various technologies. However, as time passes, I find my motivation dwindling. The prospect of engaging in coding challenges like leetcode loses its appeal, fueled by the fear that even success in these exercises may not guarantee a job. Despite putting in my best efforts to solve problems, I find myself trapped in a repetitive cycle every two days. Additionally, financial strain adds to the pressure, leaving me with no savings. These challenges have led to thoughts of leaving the country or a sense of hopelessness. In the realm of personal relationships, my attempts to connect have proven unsuccessful. Despite trying dating apps, I haven't found a girlfriend, and feelings of isolation persist. Complicating matters, I am grappling with the aftermath of a breakup from a seven-year relationship, which has left me without any sexual experiences. I never have had sex in my life ever. Having given up masturbation long ago, I question whether I deserve a happy life. At 33 years old, I'm also contending with back and knee pains. The connection between happiness and excelling in technical interviews, such as leetcode, seems elusive, given my continued job search challenges despite my passion for technology. What exactly I should do? Just a leetcode to get a job? I have no girlfriend, no wife, no kids, no savings, no car, no entertainment either!! Sometimes I think I may give up on life and leave this world..... I want to get a good job, a good sex life, kids, a car, and my own house but I am very much demotivated! Edit: It feels so hurtful when people keep on asking you why you have not gotten a job as of yet despite having good tech experience etc. It also hurts having no girlfriend/wife/kids at the age of 33 as people kept on asking why you did not get married as of yet. Edit: I planned to join the gym a couple of months ago but as I am been diagnosed with an L5 degeneration problem at the backbone, I am just scared. Also, I am diagnosed with Arthritis so I am just careful.
If you already have a job then give break to leetcode. Financial struggle? Use your money wisely. Need a gf , that's luck. Try making friends or meet similar interests group through hobby. If you don't have one then develop a hobby and you will be better. This is the reality of USA it's very normal. Take care.
No, I do not have a job. I am still looking. Thanks for the honest guidance.
I'm sorry to hear that. Yes it is tough plus inflation. Hope you make it. It's really not the end of the world. Some opportunity will show up either here or elsewhere. Hang in there
Also focus on fitness. Your body transforms throughout the life. Mind body connection is real, your thoughts could be creating Illness so wise up.
Ya bored was not the right thing to say. My bad. But hey op you got this.
Thank mate...!!! Thats okay. It feels so hurtful when people keep on asking you why you have not gotten a job as of yet despite having good tech experience etc. It also hurts having no girlfriend/wife/kids at the age of 33 as people kept on asking why you did not get married as of yet.
I hear you. But it's better to be single than being in a bad relationship. Everything will fall in place when the time is right. Also you are very young. Things will work out.
Thailand bro. Thailand .
Haha. Pros and Cons? :)
Pros:. You will explore your primeval instincts, with body count that other fellow men can only dream of. Also you will realise that real sex is overhyped and pron is perhaps the greatest thing that has happened to mankind since the discovery of fire. Will put things into perspective when it comes to decisions on marriage. Because you will seek out good women instead of hot ones. Cons: your passport will have a Thailand stamp. So anyone checking your passport will know what you were up to, including your future spouse if any. But why marry someone anyway who can't chew up the fact that humans are polygamous?.
You have not masturbated from a long time and asking for motivation from folks in blind?
Haha. I am sorry! I wanted to say, that I have read people release their stress by having sex or masturbating a lot, so I said it.
Try to focus on whatever good things you might have in life. Even go out to volunteer or something it really helps to get out of this state when you have nothing going for you. Watch some good movies with a good message. One of favorite ones is Castaway
Thank you. I will look for volunteer work in my area.....!! Thanks for the movie recommendation... Any take on leetcode since you are at Google? :)
Yeah I did my foundation quite a years back so now its easy to revise. For me contests really helped. Like I did the whole pattern wise thing first where I went over leetcode for each category. That helps to relate different types of qs to patterns. But the contest really kep things interesting for me. Even if I was just ablw to solve the easy queations slowly this helped me in solving unseen medium questions. There aren't going to be completely unseen q's but there are going to be variations and this will really help you ace that quickly
Bro touch grass
Thanks brother. I go for a walk early in the morning. :)
You want too much. Solve small problems first. Would you get 350k tc or get laid? You can always get a good job but you can’t get your youth back. Even you had 1 million at 33 you would still be middle class.
Thanks. I like your perspective on my expectations so much. I sometimes think what will be the time when I will ever be earning 350K as I am at 0 level…. Yes, 33 is not a young range. Who is above the middle class?
Imo people who are free are any above class. You know like I don’t wanna work this week or who can sleep peacefully. Dont get into the tech notion that you have to make a lot of money to lead a happy life. People in Europe make ok money but they live their life to the fullest. If I were you I would get a job which can be a stepping stone. Get into ai - first 2-3 years are gonna be a pain but ifyou hard work its gonna be it. For context I am 33 but I have no will to work. Even small things irritate me