Turns out my marriage was a green card scam. Got into an arranged marriage 1.5 year ago in India. All was relatively hunky dory until she got her green card. Now she wants divorce and i just found out she has a boyfriend. To add more to my misery, she is now asking 50 50 for my assets. I got $100k of bonus/stocks last years, 401k and the equity in the house i.e. split of equity appreciation. She is also making me pay for her laywer. Min exposure, 50k, max, 100k Why do people like her exists? I didnt even get married in USA, my marriage isn't even registered here but I am getting fucked over here. Has anyone else gone through this? Do I have any legal way out? #depression #mentalhealth #divorce #washington
So many questions. How is it arranged and why did it take place in India? I assume youāre a US citizen? So why would you get married in India if youāre a US citizen. I mean, I guess you can threaten to go to the USCIS or getting the marriage annulled (think thereās a time frame on that). This isnāt legal advice either.
Not a US citizen, I am green card my self. i can't cancel her green card or report her for fraud because the green card wasn't conditional on marriage. I got married in India because that is where my family and I left it upto them to find me a girl. Unfortunately, everyone made a bad decision
Talk to a lawyer. Maybe you could claim Forced Marriage or was forced to petition for spouse. How is it not conditional? Is she still in India? How were you able to get a GC? Sounds like she knew this was a jackpot. Relax, try to find an attorney and potentially see if you can talk it out with her.
Def try and get the marriage annulled she be deported too . Hate people like her
Step 1, move all assets to accounts she doesnāt have access to. Step 2, get a lawyer for yourself (not her).
All accounts are apparently community property i.e. doesn't matter if they are in my name, the money is community
Are you sure sheās not going to get pissed off and do the same, then return to India or some other place? What recourse would you have then?
You can report her for marriage scam, consult lawyer about it, if that is done she wonāt be able to take your money... just gonna leave you with a good lesson. Try record her in saying she married you for green card and now she is going to bring her boy friend over. Or do it over email or something to leave proof.
First step:talk to a lawyer. Not Blind. Second step: realize that if you can get out of this for $100-200k, you are getting out cheap. Also, legal representation need not be $100k - $15-20k is a reasonable range for a divorce with no kids involved. Third step: Did you forget step one about talking to a lawyer and listening to them instead of me? Finally: I agree with the sentiment of others that this person sucks and is a scammer, but your best bet is working with a lawyer to minimize your costs in getting out of this, rather than maximizing revenge factor. By all means, file for an annulment if your lawyer says that is possible, but don't do what somebody on Blind says.
That green card is provisional for 3 years from the day of issuance. Hire a lawyer, report marriage for green card scam. And if the green card is canceled- she will be deported with 10 yrs ban. Not to mention your marriage is void and she gets nothing from you but deportation. Good luck
Itās provisional for two years. Also, green card via a scam marriage means lifetime deportation and not 10 years. Ten years is only for overstaying visas by a lot or illegally crossing the US border.
^^^ this would be awesome outcome. If you start go fund me for this, let me know
Feel sad for you but stay strong. You earned the money now and I am sure you will earn it back again. Just let go of it peacefully preferably avoiding that extra 100K on lawyer. And focus back on making your life better. Maybe finding someone down the line.
Lol! You don't need to be married before you pay for child benefits except you are planning never to be intimate with any lady. Goodluck!
Why would he be planning to never be intimate with any lady? There are plenty of women willing to have sex with men they have no intention of marrying. Women have sex for fun too. I almost got engaged twice and every time I think about it, I say there but for the grace of God go I. And Iām an atheist.
I have a really bad feeling she would win this and you'll be screwed over. šŖ Same mistake over and over and over again. When are we guys gonna ever learn? I feel sorry for you OP but that's all i can do. Not a lawyer and can't give you legal advice either.
He can put up a fight atleast. There would be something out of it. Donāt encourage such things. Op, you might have to do something in India as well or else she can claim your ancestorās property as well.
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Get a lawyer. Does she even have a case if you aren't legally married here?
Ah nevermind, you said she got her green card, presumably from the marriage. Ouch.
Still going to need a lawyer.