Dating and potentially finding a life partner in Bay Area as a guy is probably never going to happen. I’ve given up on pursuing this and will focus on working out, my hobbies, traveling, and making more money. If at some point I were to find a girl who checks all my boxes and she happens to like me as well, I’ll probably give it a shot. What’s dating experience like for you guys? tc 300K, 29 YO
Checkboxes? Good luck!
my friend 32M had similar experience, moved to NYC back in 2019 met someone special within 1 month and got married last year, he's now coming back to bay area with a new offer from AAPL, i think you should try this
Good lad, focus on yourself bxtches will cling to you like flies on a lamp
I met my future wife in the Bay Area. I would focus on building friendships and good community. Go on dates and if they don’t work out, ask if they would be friends (without any hopes that they’ll be interested). Having friends makes you feel more fulfilled and less like you’re missing out.
I think you’re right. And you’re also not being desperate to find a company. Most of your needs in a relationship can be met by a good bunch of friends. (Except for sex, that is 😅)
I agree with OP. The having friends part really helps to feel less lonely and also helps while dating: having female friends is less creepy
Not worth it. Having lived in many different cities before, the amount of effort, time, and money you have to put in for dating in the Bay Area (not including SF) is not worth the quality of girls (my opinion). Focusing my time on moving up in my career now and then moving to a different city afterwards to date.
having a checkbox is just limiting you, focus on yourself and keep an open mind!
Chase the money and the women will chase you
Even if women didn’t chase me, chasing the money still sounds like the right thing to do 😅
Chase the money, and you will end up with nothing. It's a never-ending battle that you will lose.
Focus on your career and just travel you’ll prob meet someone like that. I noticed a bunch of ppl say NY so maybe just go there for a bit of a vacation and see what happens
Thank you. I’m not sure about NY but let’s see what destiny has in store for me
I am in Europe and also gave up on dating over here. Female here though. If you are open to move let's see what we could do hahaha :)
Out of curiosity, why’s it difficult for you to find dates in Europe?
Dates are easy to find. Meaningful ones - almost impossible. Too many emotionally unavailable guys. They don't connect easily. The good ones are already in relationships. I moved here in 2020 so the lockdowns decreased heavily my chances of meeting someone, plus statistically: the biggest % of what is left on the dating market at this age (late 20s) are avoidant people who go from one relationship into another. Looking for the "exceptions" turned out to be emotionally draining, plus now with the layoffs situation I feel like... Whatever....
Move to NYC
Haha I don’t think I’ll find good opportunities there
When you say opportunities you mean job opportunity or dating opportunity? Thinking the same thing