seems like my schedule is aready so packed.. 9-5 go to work 5-6 workout/errands 7 make it home 7-8 make dinner 8-9 relax 9-10 shower/ get ready for bed its the same for my SO. i just cant imagine adding kids to the mix. I already feel exhausted by 11. how do you do it?!
Once you have kids you realize that you’ve wasted a lot of time before. You have the opportunity to become a beacon of efficiency
No offense, but a beacon of efficiency to what end? When there were too few humans on the planet in the first place, and the black plague threatened to wipe out half of them, sure. But today, when the planet is already groaning with 7B+ people, what are you really achieving by being that beacon of efficiency? Just curious.
Having kids isn’t a charity for the world. You’re a building a family and community for yourself.
5-10 becomes pick up kids, make dinner, feed them, shower them, shower yourself and go to bed
If I had lived in Bay Area I would not have kids. I have just because it was in different world.
Like anything else, ya gotta want it and nothing raises your game like a dependent for which the overwhelming love you feel defies explanation.
My game raising all came post marriage, and accelerated since having kids.
THIS is what people don’t get!
I have a kid and love the times I spend with him. Somehow I feel I am more relaxed now than before having a kid. Maybe he showed me what the right priorities are and I stopped running. Also, Cut down your commute time and dinner time. 2 hours of commute and dinner everyday is tiring. I am guessing you missed mentioning your morning commute as well
Curious what you mean by cutting down dinner time?
Meal prep or don’t make fancy meals. Boil rice once a week and microwave to warm all other days, cook a bunch of different meats on Sunday, pre cut veggies all at once. Then dinner becomes a 5 minute event.
Wife wanted them. I didn’t. But now can’t imagine life without them (even though it’s a lot of work). I still get to do all the things I used to do before kids, it’s about managing time and good coordination with your wife/husband. I basically have the same routine as you 3-4 days/week. Daycare is also important.
Guess your wife was right :) sounds like you’re very happy. That’s great
@Rain$Maker - your schedule sounds like you don't spend too much time with your kids...?
Game over once you have kids.
In the grand scheme of things, every life is one iteration, with each sprint lasting a lifteime. Two products combine their powers to create new iteration/s. Based on what they have learnt in life they’ll bring up the new generation. It’s a way to live for ever, by creating (hopefully) better versions of yourself in combination with the other self. Another way I look at it is: I want to have kids because my ancestors since time immemorial faced unthinkable challenges to survive and thrive and made me happen. </rambling>
I get what you mean but now it’s a choice. In the past birth control was not an option so people just had kids because they had sex and no way to prevent. Now that it’s a choice it requires a great deal of thought and is a conscious decision instead of “oops got pregnant”. Often it seems pros do not outweigh the cons
Your existence along with everyone else on this planet was the result of a whole lot of your ancestors making similar choices. Some deliberate, some not. But the ticket, take the ride.
The amount of love you're going to have for your child cannot be explained in words. There's going to be this little new person with you that you're going to love more than life itself. That's special and it changes your priorities and outlook on life.
http://paulgraham.com/kids.html
Very interesting, thanks!
It’s a nice piece, but if you can’t express serious compassion for all children and realize that they have parents until _you_ become a parent...you might want to work on your empathy.