I’m going to move to NYC later this year and I want to do absolutely whatever it takes to be the most attractive man I can be and have my fun before I get old. I’m 26 years old. Here are my stats Ethnicity: Indian Height: 5’10 Weight: 135 lbs Hair: Not curly but very straight. TC: 150k NW: 310k (includes 80k equity in rental property) I’m willing to go out multiple days a week to events/nightclubs/whatever to be social. I want to spend a few months cold approaching people to really put myself out there. From now until the end of the year I can go to the gym to increase my weight but I don’t anticipate going to the gym that much when I move. Do you guys think gaining 20 lbs will make a huge difference in my dating success? Any recommendations on where to live in Manhattan to meet the most people? My budget is my net income. Should I get a professional photographer to take photos for dating apps? I focused a lot on my career/living with parents to save money and tbh this is the only other thing I want in life -> to feel I tried my best to maximize my date-ability the way I maximized my career. I understand I need to be authentic to myself and I’m working on that. Thanks!
Simple, not being your ethnicity.
I don’t believe in limiting beliefs like that. Sorry bro
It’s a fact, I know tough pill to swallow😁
You are still a boy and too young to be focusing on all these distractions. Use this time to focus on your career, secure promotions, and rising to the top. Give back to your parents and help save for your sister's wedding. God always helps those who help themselves and others. You will become a big man one day and will command lakhs upon lakhs of rishtas. These are the golden years.
My guy I literally did all of that. Big job, rental property, investments. It doesn’t mean anything lol when you sitting at home on a Friday night and everyone is having fun. What was all of this for??
Oh, I see. I'm in the Bay Area but have reconnected with my batch mates from the IIT Alumni Association. Perhaps you can use your school network to make friends. As for suitors, don't overthink it, man. All women prefer mature, soft-spoken, and career-oriented men. All the very best.
Definitely bulk up. By dating do you mean more hookups?
Hookups but really I want to meet women that want me ya know. None of this “I have a headache I can’t have sex today”. I know she wasn’t saying that to the chad guy/whatever BS guy that women hook up with.
If you optimize for hookups you won’t find a woman who loves you, aka, she will have a headache everyday
Seeking?
Before moving change your dating app location and see if it’s worth it. NYC cost of living too high. You might have better success in Bangalore
I’m a married women who dated on both coasts. It’s hard out there for us all. My number one advice I give single guys is to be bold and approach more women in the real world versus on dating apps. Strike up conversation with people that seem interesting and ask for the phone number. Get comfortable with rejection. This is also how you make new friends. I did this all the time in LA when seeking more female friends. I got rejected and ghosted some but I now have one great, lifelong friend out of the deal. Remember when dating… all you need is one great girl to change everything. Good luck to you!
I plan to approach as much as possible. No more relying on dating apps BS
Yes! Hope you have a great time with it.
Too skinny. Bulk up.
honestly lift and get your weight to like 170+ i have friends who are taller than me like 6’0ft+ but their weight is like yours and has no fucking presence
Being stylish and well groomed will be helpful. Make sure your clothes fit you properly, get a flattering haircut etc. The other thing, and this matters even more is that instead of focusing on dating, focus on genuine, general sociality. Go out, and when you go out be friendly and talkative with everyone. Everyone I know who dated a lot also had a lot of friends and was generally popular. NYC is great: go explore all the cool things the city has, go to every kind of thing, take classes and seminars and just really get out there.
what do you mean by going out? where to go? how do you socialize?
Go out to events that you’re interested in: shows, art openings, meet-ups, parties, museums, seminars, plays etc How do I socialize ? By being out in public, and by coming with friends and meeting new people.
What’s your YoE?
3
How do you have such a high NW with 3 YOE? It likely exceeds your lifetime post tax earned income.