Experiencing this time and again. I am crippled and unable to do anything about it (its too late for me to leave the States and head home)
You can and should still go.
Sorry for your loss, It might be very helpful to get back and spend sometime with other loved ones of yours and together celebrate the life and memories of your loss. Don’t go through this pain on your own , it is a very difficult phase :(
If you can, visiting is a must. Even if you do not go for a happy occasion is OK but going at the tough time and comforting the near and dear will help them and you too in long run
Consider seeing a grief counselor or therapist
Is this due to a war in your home country? Or is your immigration status preventing you from going back to be close to family after someone dies?
Immigration status
Sorry to hear that. In such situation i imagine the hardest part is not being able to help the remaining family. Since you can't personally travel to support loved ones maybe you can try some other options to support them. Maybe helping the remaining family financially. Or sending immediate family like wife or child in your place. Keeping frequent contact through video chat. Frequent phone calls and being there. Also don't forget about yourself, you need to release the stress. Sports and gym are great. Yoga too. Find something to make your peace. At the end of the day this is out of your control so focus on what you can control instead. Sorry for your losses.
Hey nothing to add but hope you find peace soon.
I'm sorry for your situation. This is something I dread too :-(
Consider frequent trips or a short leave of absence from work to spend time with those who matter. Time is the only thing you’ll never get back.
Not sure about adobe's policies, but if you get bereavement leave then use it. Even if you aren't able to visit, use the time to cope and to reflect on your loved one (s) and to communicate with family.
Sorry for your loss. Be strong.