Have been having so many wrong thoughts lately. Nothing seems to be working for me in terms of mental health. I workout , go on walks hoping I’ll feel better but when I lie down to sleep , all I can think about is how fkd up life is. I try n talk to friends in hope of extracting some positive energy but I guess since all my circle is in tech, every single one of them starts telling me how fkd up their life is as well. Should I just accept that this is how it’s going to be until I’m gone ? #burnout #depression #mentalhealth
Wish I was friends with you, I am in tech and have a very positive outlook. 🙂
You need to get laid
Ain’t that the solution to everything? My wife is in a similar state of mind and this part of our life has drifted too far.
Divorce my man, this is the issue. There's some excitement missing
There is always a bright side after dark one. Hang in there. You may be talking to wrong set of people. Find mew people to talk and learn from. Above all sometimes life is not that fucked up as we think. May be start counting ur blessings. Help others and you may feel better.
Apple speaking facts! Don’t give up OP. Remember what uncle iroh said, “If you look for the light, you can often find it.But if you look for the dark that is all you will ever see.”
Thanks for that comment. I use to have that exact outlook. Not sure what happened lately. Work, relationships, aging parents back home , expectations from everyone around me to be available all the time on my A game ? . Part of the problem I guess I don’t know what’s wrong. I just have this eerie constant suppressed feeling of anxiety, dullness and depression. It’s almost like it’s attached to me like an identity and I have not been able to break shackles.
In your couple you should both encourage eachother and help eachother to succeed and be happy. If that's not happening then it's a failing relationship IMO. That is the root problem.
We do try to do this. Although I’m lost sometimes what to do. I moved here because she encouraged me to be more ambitious, I was pretty happy with my low key life to be honest. We didn’t have the funds but I poured all my saving to fulfill the dream to move. I did tell her that life on H4 can be tough especially if you have worked all your life. And Life here has been pretty good as well. But I guess she’s starting to feel the burn of not working and that has made her rather insipid. With my 140 still pending not sure what I can do for her.
Oh yeah that is classic. You need to have a sit down with her and work this out. You both need to wake up fresh in the morning excited about all the things you could get done. Find whatever you want to do, maybe classes, dancing, a project, whatever. There needs to be something that motivates each of you to get out of the bed every morning. A "pretty good" life is not only about TC and putting food on the table. Like I said you both need to support/encourage each other on this. And if you figure out that it isn't working out, then in my opinion it's better to be alone, take care of yourself, and eventually try again with someone that aligns with the above. My philosophy is that ultimately you are priority #1 in your life, your needs come first. Because only when you are "doing well" you can offer meaningful help to others.
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