How do you compensate for the missing experiences in life?
I regret missing out on a lot of experiences because I grew up poor. Also because I did not have a lot of freedom growing up in a 3rd world country. Now that I have freedom and money, I'm trying to experience as many new and interesting things as possible. I try to compensate for the missed experiences. But there are some that are still hard to recreate, like, say prom. How I wish to be a teenager and plan for weeks about my prom night, waiting for people to ask me to be their date, choosing one of them, wearing the dream prom dress that would make me feel like I'm a 9.5/10 although I'm a 6.5/10 in reality, getting a corsage as a gift from my dad who would embarrass me infront of my friends for pictures with me, dance with a guy I have a crush on and the first kiss that I'm gonna reminisce and regret for the rest of my life. Haha Ah. Idk if it's even possible to recreate a prom night. I think there should be a second prom exclusively for adults, for all those introverted nerd kids who couldn't get a girl/guy to give them a second look. For those nerds who turn out to be real cool after they grow up. Who else feels that way? What do you do to recreate situations to relive moments? Or do you thinks it's just lame?
Everyone has missed lots of things, grass is not greener on the other side.
That's kinda sad. Everybody should have plenty of wonderful experiences. One should try to live to the best of their ability atleast after growing up. I don't regret my childhood but I wish I had more interesting experiences.
Bad thinking. The greatest fool is the one who thinks there is something out there that makes them happy. Trust me, there is not.
Go into the matrix.
Ensure that your kids never gave that. Somethinng tells me you will make sure that wont happen
I kinda believe that my kids will have plenty of fun experiences. Afterall, I think more about my future kids than my future partner :p No matter how much freedom I give them, I think I will make sure to embarrass them though. You know. For the sake of culture :p
Take some lcd
Lol, What would she need monitors for?
Dual monitors will help her recreate those experiences.
You guys didnt have prom in your country?
I did not know what prom means till I was in my 20s. So no, it's not a thing in my country. Even if it was, I'm sure it will be culture within the rich communities, so I don't think I would have experienced it anyway
If it's not a thing in your country, how can you miss it?
I willingly skipped prom. No regrets here. Bought a couple new video games with the money I would have spent :)
You did not think it was worth your time and money. You wouldn't have enjoyed it much even if you had gone anyway. You made the right choice :)
I didn't get to experience much growing up either. I now don't try to recreate stuff that I lost but instead spend more time on stuff I can now do. A couple years of this and I've amassed some amazing experiences. On prom - it's weird and awkward for most people. Also the planning for weeks thing is media bullshit...mostly on white people live like that. Most immigrants or children of immigrants cannot afford to be that wishful as teenagers.
I'm sorry you did not get to experience much growing up. I'm interested to know the amazing experiences that you amassed after growing up :)
Bartended during the summer, taught English in another country (on sabbatical from my job), went clubbing A LOT, lots of dating (when I was single), lots of friends while traveling like going to an underground jazz spot in South Africa. Took up professional boxing for a bit...a couple others things. So much stuff to do! 🙃
You don’t have to recreate what you missed. Instead, you can do what you can now and live a fun life. I’ve been to Europe and Asia, stayed at hotels, met lot of people and partied. Even in Bay Area, joined some meetup groups, did a lot of hiking, events, dance classes and went on pub crawls, etc. I lost interest in partying now but still do traveling, outdoors and workouts. No regrets because it was a good life. End goal should be to find out what you enjoy doing in life and making some new friends instead of just partying. Be safe and have fun!
:) I like your comment
I take life as - a short blanket where you can’t cover everything. Try to cover your head, your feet are exposed. Try to cover your feet, your head is exposed. You can’t warm everything. It’s a trade-off. I missed learning any vocational skill in my childhood. I have zero skillset besides Tech. Growing up, my time was consumed in preparing for competitive exams, with no time to spend on sports, music, or even non-academic readings. Now in social gatherings (virtually these days), I literally have nothing else to present myself with. I feel like a nobody. So coming from an average-wealth background myself, I needed the education to have the life I am having now that I wouldn’t have had otherwise. So I traded my missed childhood experiences, to get the adulthood experiences now.
Do you wish you could focus less on career, so you can have some time to indulge in other activities? Now that you aren't really struggling to afford a reasonable lifestyle, do you wonder if better wlb could make you happier?
That’s a good question. I have my share of fun activities fairly often, but haven’t really considered pursuing the activities I personally desire. Back in my head the thought runs as, my parents have put their life savings on me to help me have a better life. I want to make sure they have the fun they missed in their lifetime (having a roof they own, traveling, luxurious lifestyle). For me, nothing in the world can ever match with them having a peace of mind, especially in their old age. I am in my late 20s, I can roam around the world in my 30s, in my 40s. My parents’ body will give up on them in ~10 years from now. So while they can, I want to give them whatever they want. I also want to make sure my kids get the life that would be ideal for them. Heck, even if my life is short, I will still be happier with them having the fun they missed than me missing out on anything. Everyone have different criteria, somehow my brain has been wired to seek happiness in loved ones, so each one to their own. :)
I’ll kiss you..
I'm not a teenager who is anxious about her first kiss anymore. It's more than a kiss I was talking about. I'm talking about the adreline rush that the whole experience comes with 🤷
I’ll kiss you when paragliding ....don’t engage me..bored and trolling here..