Comparison destroys / motivates people. People say comparison is thief of joy. Literally, one way or the other, you will get to know what other people are doing in their lives (Thanks to social media, news, friends). I am joyful when I shut off the external world, but then the world is changing so rapidly that I have this FOMO feeling that makes me want to update myself with changes happening around me. How do you build that mentality to stay ignorant to things in life which may put you down, yet stay updated on important things happening around you? Please share any good resources you may have. Examples: Blind is 99% toxic but has 1% useful information. LinkedIn has 99% useless posts but has 1% useful information that helped me progress my career. #mentalhealth
Train your algos, don’t let them train you.
I un-followed many people on LinkedIn with bragging mentality during covid. Yet, I found that it was when one such friend liked a random post, I got introduced to something very valuable for my career. I have to go through 99% bs to get 1% useful information (which may sometimes be a turning point in your life and was worth going through 99% of bs)
Maybe time block it and avoid it when you’re not in a good mental state for it?
I hear you. This is something I think about a lot. Comparison is the worst and yet, you see it everywhere. There was a time when I disconnected from Facebook pre-covid, it was the best time for me mentally. But then I have friends who are ok but also annoying and need to keep comparing d*ck size through looking at TC benchmarks and what not.
Tbh you don't need to keep up with everything in the world. We are inundated with soo much stimuli and information, it's impossible to be up to date with everything especially with an attention span of a goldfish. I personally have been focusing on things/interests that I like, which has let me to funnel the chaos to something manageable. Also for the cursory knowledge, just subscribe to some news aggregator/ newsletter. I have more energy and better focus these days and don't feel lost. Try different strategies and see what works for you. Ultimately it should lead to a content peaceful mind that is growing each day.
Good response, the thing I noticed in doing so was I was so out of place when communicating with friends that I had to ask them to explain everything right from the beginning. Let's say, some of those experiences have not gone well. (You may argue they are not my true friends but then I get to learn at least 10-30 % useful stuff from them). I am trying to learn not to take things personally but it just isn't as easy as it sounds.
I totally agree. Turn off all notifications, don't watch any news, still it's hard. If you heard news that disturbs you, try to talk with people who make u feel good.
It's hard to find people who make you feel good. Having a good support system definitely helps. I did have 1 or 2 such friends in college. But for some reason, as people age and start being more and more responsible for their own lives, the less they care about other people. People I knew in my early teens aren't the people I know now. They have changed.
Yes still find ways to connect with old school college friends
I feel like you are talking similar things as me. Can I dm you
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I 100% agree with you. I am temporarily not using Insta/linkedin and my mental health is much better. I often find myself comparing with other people's goals, even if deep down I know that I don't want the same. Honestly I prolly only use LinkedIn back , when I have to chage jobs. Scrolling it daily is not a good option for me. Also agree on 1% information over 99% bullshit. A probable solution is to build a good filter system. For eg, Using Reddit once a month to see top posts is better than using them daily. Similarly for blind, you just have to search questions. If you mindlessly scroll, you will prolly get depressed by relatively high TC and get into ratrace. Also, WE ARE NOT BORN JUST TO WORK !
Content on platforms like instagram or linkedin is individualistic and stems comparisons. Eg. People posting their recently bought cars, yacht parties and what not Content on news websites keeps you updated with what's happening in the world. So, follow a handful of folks on Instagram (if you use it). People you actually care about and would be delighted to see happy, and would want to share their sorrows too. Not random "influencers"
I rarely use IG. Unfortunately, news media have learned it from the likes of FB, IG on how to hook people and play the numbers game. I do agree with your sentiment on following people who share their sorrows as well.