How to be content in life?
10 years ago, I was a student and just wanted a job. I was working hard everyday to find a job. 5 years ago, I was earning 100k and had debt to pay off. I was unhappy with that TC. NW was negative. I just wanted a high paying job. Now I earn 300k and am debt free. NW is 400k + a real estate in India. I think 300k is a decent paying job (although most blinders might disagree). Now I want a relaxed job where I don't have to grind so hard everyday. I realized overall I have been unhappy and always striving for more, in some form or the other. The race never ends and it is causing me anxiety. How to be content in life? At what job or at what point in life do I feel happy, relaxed, and content? What should I do to not live in constant anxiety? I feel like I am running a marathon that just doesn't seem to end.
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Contentment = Service One can never be content by achieving (worldly) things, and that is how it is meant to be. Aspiration (or greed) creates drive and moves humanity. Contentment and satisfaction on the other hand can only be achieved thru service. Volunteer at a non profit or at a soup kitchen or help a random person in need, and see how you feel.
Probably getting off blind would be a good first step.
Get tattoos, pick an instrument, get a Harley Davidson fat boy, become a rock star, abuse steroids, develop a crazy physique, learn to fight. That’ll keep you busy for a long time. You’ll make crazy cool friends
OP is not bored , rather they are not content lol. How do these things solve OPs problem?
Thing is people would never be content in life. There’s always more. These hobbies and other stuff is just a distraction. Pretty good ones actually. I’ve mentioned some which would take a decade or so and during that time OP would meet new coolass people and make new relationships and realise that they make him more satisfied than anything ever would and hence, solve all of OPs problems
Not the whole solution but have you tried meditation? Not an app or DIY but a retreat where you do nothing but meditate for several days in a row? Vipassanna is a free 10 day program that is held in hundreds of dedicated centers all over the world with two centers in California. It is the gold standard and will help you get started on your personal journey to self-fulfillment. Highly recommend https://www.dhamma.org/en-US/index
I thought these retreats cost thousands of $$. I thought it was a rip off. I'd check the one you sent me. Thanks for sharing.
Can vouch for Vipassanna. It is probably the best start to this journey. But make sure your body is up for it. Meditating for 8-10 hours each day puts a huge strain on your back and legs. Read about their schedule online. (Wake up at 4) But so worth it!
Bro we are desi males. Chaddi baddi coders, obsessed with visa and prestige, can only get arranged marriage due to ugliness. How do you expect any of us to be happy if we’re not filthy rich?
Set some goals OP. Moonshot, earthshot. I want to retire at 45 and play music for the rest of my life. I want to work in outdoor recreation and be fit and teach people about conservation and hydrology. I need to bank $300k a year to do that. It's still out of reach for me. I also want to pay off my house. That one's pretty doable. $80k a year for 5 years, it's done. I can be happy with that, and it'd give me and my family an incredible amount of financial security. There's a few dreams in between :) The big one is to stay employed and ensured with a decent WLB so that I can spend time with my daughter as she grows up.
I grew up studying 10+ hours a day everyday, including weekends. School, tuition, homework. I studied to get good grades at school, then to get into a good college, then to find a good job, then to get into a better job. I need to find a new person within me to set goals like "play music for life". But this is a good introspection. I earn 300k but it's new for me. Until not too long ago, I was at 100k. I am in hcol area so it doesn't get you too far here. I share a common goal of staying employed with a good wlb :) I would love to work for Indeed. I heard it has a solid wlb.
Content= Knowing Jesus
Yes, I'm very happy and content in Jesus Christ. From India. TC 200K+ I am very clear.
Knowing God. It doesn't have to be Jesus. Just knowing that there's a higher power in charge gives a lot of relief.