I feel like I have no idea how to make friends at work, or create alliances. I’m trying my best but it feels like I’m chasing people and not receiving anything back. I’m not being invited to things, I’m not going up in the corporate ladder in my companies. Whereas I see some people that are so successful at this. With so little experience. I’ve been working for 11 years professionally, on top of 4 years of waitressing during college. I need help. What should I do? How do I take steps in solving this? My TC is 100k with 90k base. (Lower than the current market rates)
If you're good at what you do then it pays off for others to join an alliance with you. You must be willing to share the impact and help people out. Also be friendly and well-mannered. In general, people want to feel safe with interacting with you, not risky.
This .. if you're useful/ helpful to others the alliance pretty much follows by default
I would recommend not making friends at work. Focus on connecting with your boss if you want to move up. Make moves quietly and privately. In terms of making friends, try outside of work.
Outside of work where? The only place I go is the gym, but my understanding is, you should not bother people at the gym
May I ask practically how d you connect better with boss or their manager, or others etc? For example Do you talk about how you can help them etc?
Alliance? What is this, war?
Because you chase the alliances solely for the purpose of personal gain. What is it that you bring to the table?
Hmm it’s the same as making friends! Everyone wants to be asked out but shy - just like you. Ask them out for coffee/lunch and talk about personal stuff. Open up. Be yourself. And see how they respond. If they open up also, then you can become friends
Not sure, but can you tell someone at work to turn off all the spam alerts in my host account? There’s like 18 of them per day telling me to open my app and check my recommendations.
Yeah true they’re super annoying
Jokes aside, read “the 48 laws of power” by Robert Greene and you’ll realize what people are doing at work and what you should probably do (you’re not there to make friends)