How do people survive constant humiliation? I am shaking, and believe there is no point in supporting this anymore. I just want to cry when it’s time to go to work. I feel like I have been faking it for the last 10 years. I feel miserable, horrible, ashamed. I cannot support being anymore being treated this way. Every day, I am thinking about quitting. But I have so many debt and I am on visa. Also my personal life is stuck because of this, I cannot conceive having a baby while constantly feeling this way. Sometimes I feel like doing something more drastic to ease the pain of those around me.
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Working on a project you don’t like or working with someone who you hate?
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Why Pronouns shit captured US ? I don’t see this anywhere else
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I have worked at TikTok US core tech for 3 years. AMA.
It's not okay that you feel this way. There should be someone in whom you can confide. Or at least a supervisor who can help address whatever happened.
I will say words won’t help but try looking at brighter side of things ... try doing things which make you happy
Please see a therapist. Especially if you’re ideating, it’s critical to get support from someone who isn’t family/friends. Of course, the first therapist might not fit you and you’ll have to keep looking. I’ve been seeing therapists off and on for 25 years, and there’s no shame in that.
This right here! ♥️♥️♥️ Lots of love and support to you both.
To change your situation you may need to take a risk
Sorry to read you're feeling like this. I don't want to even attempt to give specific advice not knowing your complete sorry. If I were you, I'd quit and look for other alternatives rather than selling my soul these soulless corporates. Look to see if you can find other jobs that support you Visa. Also F U Apple! this is not the first negative thing I'm reading about Apple.
Please don’t think about anything drastic. Please feel free to pm me if you want to talk. Life is beautiful and not everything is about work. Work is just a minor part. Take a vacation and slow things down.
No shame in seeking professional help. I’m barely in my mid 20s, and I’ve been getting regular help. It made me realize so many things about my subconscious attitudes, especially on being hard on myself and taking everything too seriously. But more than anything, having someone completely anonymous to talk to and just hear you rant has been the most therapeutic aspect of it. Do consider it, even if for one session. You will walk out of it feeling slightly lighter and more relaxed.
The US, and its Visa system, has a slavey feel to it.
Dude - no one is asking immigrants to stick to US. People are free to leave anytime. It isn’t Hotel California.
Dude. Just because people can leave doesn't mean that we don't treat them poorly. It happens. If you don't like that reality, you are free to move to another country yourself. See how ridiculous that is?
Some of us are moving overseas. I’m American and have been out of the USA for 6 years already. Smoke a joint (it’s legal) and relax.
Why do you feel constant humiliation?