I buy clothes from costco and target even for my kids. I only splurge on my kid’s education (send them to private school). I drive 2008 Honda. We only have 1 car . My family keep harassing me that I should spend more but I don’t get happiness in buying things. Should I consider changing? TC - 600k House hold TC - 900k
Nopes.
If you and your family are happy, all good. Costco sells good quality clothes. I can't stand when people spend money just to spend, and then pressure others to do the same.
If you can't make your basic decision, wondering how can you make decision for your work, who entitled you for this tc.
it's normal to seek clarity on choices. Especially when people are asking you to be different. Wouldn't you ask for broader design feedback at work if others raised concerns? I don't see why he's not entitled to that TC.
Work is easy for me. It’s more logical. People and families aren’t.
Nope, double down. Your kids will enjoy your compounded money so don't worry, someone will put them to use eventually
See remit seti to understand if you have a spending problem
Thanks. I will give it a try
Good for you. I hope you have been putting the money you saved to good use. Like investing in ETF.
Better to have money and not need it... than to need it and not have it
Everyone's values are different. If *everyone* in your household is truly happy, then there's no *need* to change. From your other responses, it's clear that your family isn't happy about the status quo, so I would try to be more accomodating for them to help them feel happier. Instilling your own values onto others isn't a bad thing if you all agree and see eye to eye. However, life is so much more than just about a single set of values, so make sure that you're giving your family the considerations and respect they deserve. The last thing you'd want is for your family to deteriorate due to unhappiness when you had the means to make them happy all along. That aside, at your TC, I'd try to strike a better balance in using the money vs investing it. There are many doors, experiences, and world views that can be unlocked with that money that you wouldn't be able to otherwise. But be sure to spend wisely, and not simply splurge on luxuries for the sake of spending. Also be equally careful of labeling everything you don't see immediate value in as fancy or unnecessary. For instance, a good heads-up-display or a better sound system on a car isn't going to change your ability to get from point A to B, but it will make the trip easier and more enjoyable, thereby reducing stress and allow everyone to be happier and healthier in the long run. You aren't going to carry that number to your grave, after all.
Well Said. I don't quite understand why many people on Blind keep discussing being frugal. I wonder what exactly they are saving for and for whom?
Your #1 priority should be your family. Not your own comfort. You may be comfortable with that frugal lifestyle but it sounds like your family is clearly telling you that they are not. Don’t change your own preferences. But DO accommodate theirs. This means spending a little more money on them. And DON’T hold it over their head. That’s even worse than being a tight ass. You may very well discover that you truly enjoy enriching their lives in this way. I personally don’t spend much money on myself aside from a few small things. But I spend every other dime I have access to on my family to make them more happy and comfortable. Tomorrow is never guaranteed, so make them comfortable today.
Why should you change if it works for you!!